What to do in case of low self esteem and low self confidence?

Question

i am an average student and now i am at graduation level n iwant to improve myself.so as to be better than good and then from better to best.when i at my level of high sef esteem and confidence i have noticed that my level of efficiency has increased tremendously but ......the problem is this that i cant maintain it and whatever i want to study i cant complete it and continue it regularly, after sometime i feel low self esteemed.i cant recognize where is the problem, i am so confused about this problem so anybody please help me out.

Answer 1

You're trying to change yourself which is bad because in the end you will NOT be satisfied. For example: if all your life you wanted to be a crossing guard (lame example I KNOW) and you knew that this is what you wanted to do. Then one day your parents say that they want you to be a doctor. You study and study and you become a doctor for THEM. You've done it but your not satisfied because that isn't you. The point is, don't try and be better then you are and know your limits or you'll be headed for a nervous breakdown.

Answer 2

You are expecting too much of yourself, and in doing so, you are setting yourself up for failure... thus, causing your own low self esteem. I call it self-sabotage. People do it all the time and don't even realize it. Try taking things a little easier and slower, and figure out what it is you really want for, and from, yourself before you start pushing yourself too hard... especially without any real goal to aim at. First you have to define your goal, and it has to be something you truly want for yourself. If you want something bad enough, nothing will stop you from obtaining it! Take the time to figure that part out first, then take it from there. You really don't have to be in such a rush to be "successful". Success comes through trial and error, as well as inspiration and dreams materialized through personal effort. Time is on your side, allow it to work for you! Nothing good comes from things that are rushed and not well thought out. Think this through, then act!