What to do in this situation? Please help... ?

Question

Over the years, I've had some family members (extended family such as relatives, cousins, etc.) who have done some things to me that aren't very nice (things such as saying to their friends they're happy to not be associated with me, wished to not be related to me, betrayed me behind and in front of my back, etc.) and those things they did saw us all in a feud where we never talked to eachother and ignored/avoided eachother for the past several years.

The thing is now after all of those years now, I recently saw them at very recent family gatherings/reunions and they've been trying whenever they can to join in my conversations and to talk to me/get back on good terms with me.

Thing is, I've been ignoring them still and their attempts at making conversation with me like they didn't exist and just continued talking without answering/acknowledging them and ended up making them look a bit stupid.

Question: Should I give these once horrible relatives (who've made me sound low, betrayed me, etc.) all one last chance and forgive? Am I right for never wanting to associate with them again? Or am I just being/sounding petty and immature?

Thanks and all input will be appreciated.

Answer 1

They need to earn your trust now. I would talk to them but not tell them too much so they can't use it against me later. I think you still need to protect yourself but still be open to the fact that they might have change.  

Answer 2

I think life is too short for this kind of drama.  

Answer 3

well, how would you want to be treated if you were the one who realized that you have been horrible to someone for years? would you want to be forgiven or ignored?

do the right thing and heal the old wounds.  you'll be a better person for it.

Answer 4

the thing you should do, is find out why they want to change now. What motivated it? I know that means talking to them, But if the reasons are good, and they truly are sorry for doing all of those things to you, then why not give them another chance. But if it still hurts to much, and the betrayal is to deep, then confront them and let them know this. Say "I know you're sorry now and you want to change, but it still hurts for me. And I'm not ready top forgive just yet."

Hope this helps

Answer 5

best advice, stay away from relatives, live your life with peace and how u want it to be, who ever it is, they should accept who u are as a person, if they fail to do that, no more chances.....

Answer 6

the problem is if you are the better person and do forgive everyone what happens if if happens to you again the betraying talking behind you're back sometime family is the worst enemy just keep doing what you're doing whats the sudden interest with you anyway do they want something from you stay away keep it as a hi bye situation