What to do now my motivation has gone!!?

Question

I do sales and like most people have to hit targets and meet deadlines. but in the last 17months I lost my son to a rare heart condition and as you all no sales is a very emotional process and I just cant seem to get going again. I just wondered if anyone could offer me some advice on a new career path.

Answer 1

Tommy,

Your problem has nothing to do with motivation or the lack of it.

It's your inability to get over the shock and pain of losing a child. It's not easy because the shock and pain caused by the death of a child is indescribably terrible. I lost a child myself and I went through the same trauma. So i am able to understand you. There is one way in which you could help yourself. Just imagine Souls of dead people are in a resting place and know what is happening to their loved ones but are not in a position to tell them they are fine in their resting place. Imagine your son watching you. While appreciating your love to him, he would feel immensely sad to see you going through agony. He would try to tell you : " Dad all living things have to die. I feel sad to see you killing yourself little by little and all because of your love to me. Please continue to love me, but do look after yourself. If you really love me, you will get over your pain and live with duties to yourself and to others. You have a duty by yourself to be happy and confident in life. Please do it to make me happy."

If you believe in God seek God's help to make you face the realities of life including your dear child's death. If not, console yourself and go on living your life as best as you can. Remember you are weakening not only yourself but all your loved ones.

I believe in God. I shall pray for you.

Be a seeker & giver of love, peace of mind and wisdom.

Answer 2

Sorry to hear about your loss.

Maybe you could try sales management, or marketing, which are something like sales but without so much personal contact with people?

The thing about losing close relatives is that it makes you reevaluate your attitude to life, what's really important in life, etc. Things will never be the same again, but you can't go on living in the past, you have to move on, the best you can.

Good luck. :-)

Answer 3

You won't get a better paying job without specialized training than sales (provided you make sales).  Maybe get on with a medical supply company that is doing something you believe will really help people.  

Answer 4

It may sound obvious, but you need a long-term break.

That is tough man, my condolences. Loss of motivation is understandable. But you have to take time out now to recuperate for the future.

Maybe you've been running on empty?