What to do??????????

Question

what to do when your husband of 4 years out of the no where starts going out and doesn't come back to sleep or is always complaining of not going out by himself. i try to work out things by telling him that i don't mind as longest he comes back to home but he says that if he gets drunk no matter what he's not going to come home. I really want to work out things for the best of my two boys. How can i make him undestand that what he's doing is not right. How can i work out things?

Answer 1

Honey I think you need to read the proverbial "writing on the wall" sounds like this guy doesn't want you, there comes a time when you need to call a duck a duck and get off the seat of self denial and look the situation straight in the face......... "Doesn't come home to sleep"  

Answer 2

this guy has basically told you your not worth it, hes more interested in booze

Answer 3

This is a hard one because you´re husband has turned into a little child. But try talking to him one more time explaining to him that this is no good example for his kids, and less as a husband. If talking doesn´t work, write a letter to him where he won´t be able to interrupt you with stupid comments. Express to him that this is really no good and that it´s leading your marriage down the drain. If that doesn´t click yet let him leave and when he gets home, let him be surpised! You´re not there anymore! This time you left, and with the kids. If this doesn´t impact him, then he doesn´t care to have his family anymore and you´re better off without him. I know this is more complicate it than I make it sound, but when men won´t listen by the good terms, they need to listen by the drastic ones and realize you mean serious. If he even feels for one second you´re ready to leave or even have the guts to do so, believe me he´ll want you back and this is time to grab him to listen.  

Answer 4

Dear Evelyn, thank you for your question, it is almost an impossible situation when only one person wants to work things out I don't know anything that can help you at this point. It does sound like he has a reason to stay away and usually that reason is another person, I'm not saying you should expect the worst because I don't know all the circumstances. He sounds like he lacks responsibility which is a bad thing to find out after you have had two kids with the guy. Again I can't say for sure but you probably have most of this figured out already. I wish you and your sons the very, very best. Good luck.  

Answer 5

It sounds to me that maybe he's got someone on the side.  If he's not coming home when he should be, then there is a reason.  And what else would the reason be?  Better think it over, watch for tell tale signs and get in touch with a lawyer.  I think the marriage is down the tubes.  I'm sorry.  You want the truth don't you?  And this is what I think.

Answer 6

   Darlin what are you letting this man do to you, If I went out and did not come back home I would expect not to have a home, he is treating you like you are not there, and your enabling him to do so. what will you do when he comes home with something that won't wash off or you get a call from some other woman that he got pregnant.

   No No No You need to stop this now, first you must try to talk to him seriously, use words like divorce, child support, family,

   Second treat him as he treats you he does not acknowledge your even there so you should not be doing his cooking cleaning, laundry, s*x

   You have to wake him up leave him with the kids a day and take off not telling him where.

   If you still want this marriage to work you need him to see it's value.

Good Luck