What to do to change my anxiety issue?

Question

I'm always nervous and jittery- always. I am also very sensitive to my surroundings. People really close to me say I overdramatize, when in actuality, they perceive that because I take things really hard, I am very sensitive and it is only exacerbated by my anxiety. I am not one of those that thrives from drama. I want this to be gone. I want to stop worrying all the time. I want to not have to worry about controlling things. I want to be able to trust. I am always fidgety from nervousness. People mistake this for me having intense energy. People envy me for it. I can go up and down 6 flights of stairs and I prefer it to the elevator (only because I'm impatient and don't want to wait 5 minutes for the slow elevator to come up.) I want to just not be anxious anymore. How do I change my thought process? Please, don't ask me to get medicine. I'm totally against medicine to treat that stuff. That's an easy way out, I want to change my thought process. I just don't know how. Please help!

Answer 1

Hi there, your question is to big to answer here but I have a website that is all about changing the way you think and so on.  It might be useful, if not there are links there to sites that might be.  

http://www.dream-life-coaching.com

best of luck with this

Answer 2

There is a way! You can change.

I changed I used the Attacking anxiety and depression program by Lucinda Basset. www.stresscenter.com...

My life is completely different, I actually enjoy living now, I am relaxed, I have the tools ans skills to cope.

I am against medicine too. The good thing is that you do not need medication!

Let  me share a few of the things I learned. things that really work:

First, anxiety is a learned behavior. We often come from similar backgrounds. Our families were over reactors,  unstable, negative, upbringing,lost of a love one, controlled by guilt. history of anxiety in our families...

So this is a learned behavior. I learned to be anxious as a child, and I became an anxious adult. People like me and you have type A personalities, we are creative, analytical, high energy...

And that is all good if we know how to use it to be productive, instead of destructive.

This is a lot of Information but I am going to cover, some of the most important things I learned.

First, being anxious, makes us, more anxious. So it helps to know anxiety is just a disorder.

We are in control of how we feel, we feel the way we think, and we often because we are worriers think negative.

Put worry into 2 catagories things you can change and things you cannot change, if you cannot change them then forget them it is a waste of energy. If you can change them then take action. This is positive energy. it is taking control.

Anger, affects ourimmune systems, blood pressure, and increases anxiety... Next time you get mad, ask yourself is this worth the stress response? Be more effective and less affected! Will this really matter a week from now?

These are errors in thinking: "what if" ex. I don't get the job, don't feel comfortable? "what if you do." that is what you want to do turn that thinking around...

"Conclusion jumping"Don't predict bad out comes based on past experiences...etc.

Don't use absolutes when speaking... ex.I always have done this... it never helps...etc.

"The Past" Don't live in it, it is gone. Look it up in the dictionary. you can not change it. Let it go. Live in the Precious Present Moment!

Don't relive it. It is not worth the stress response.

Let the past go, live the the present, and prepare for tomorrow.

"Guilt' Don't keep feeling guilty, ask forgivness if possible forgive yourself, and move on.

"Expectations" Have realistic expectaions, if you have expectations that are to high for yourself or others. You are going to be dissappointed.

I learned a lot about chemister... We can control alot of our chemistry...

Start reducing all caffiene, white suger and chocolate. These are stimulants,(affect you adrenline, blood sugar levels...) they make you go,. this has make a huge difference in my life. I am calmer and sleep all night, for the first time in my life.

Exercise, lets down endorphines, they give us a over all sense of well being. Walking just 30 minutes relaxes, and reduces anxiety.

If you think the way you have always thought life will be the way it has alwys been!

Knowledge is Power.

I became less anxious when I learn that I have control over me...

Nobody ever told me this stuff. I thought wow!

I cannot sress how my life has changed, this program teaches so much, after 3 weeks I learned to live a life I never imagined possible.

Life is Good.