What to do to make my wife initiate s*x more... ???

Question

well we have been married 4 yrs... we have 2 boys... she is only 135lbs and is 5ft 6in but she isnt happy with her stomach... there is a little baby fat there and some stretch marks... i tell her she is beautiful and s**y all the time... we do it 2 - 3 times a week but she rarely initiates it... according to her i am the best lover she has ever had and the biggest as well... so no problems there... when we do it we have great s*x most of the time... but i wish she wanted me as badly as i wanted her... im just so into her... i mean she is my dream girl so to speak and every time we do something i am in heaven... our marriage has been a little shaky and we are starting marriage counseling again... she has been unhappy saying she doesnt know who she is and that i am a wonderful husband but she just is unhappy sometimes... we bought a gym membership for her to workout because that really excites her to maybe work on her stomach... i dont know... i know 2 or 3 times is a good amount... i could do it everyday...lol.... but really its not the quantity per se... its the quality where she is all over me... thats what i want... anybody went through this and have any fixes...

Answer 1

Spend an hour in bed with her not having s*x, just touching her in various ways. Do this every night. Wait...

Answer 2

Sometimes women just needs to be left alone. I know that I get turned on more when my husband isn't asking for or talking about s*x. Try that.

Answer 3

Quit your bitchin'

A small wife and s*x 2 to 3 times a week. Just shut up. Count your blessings.

She needs to improve herself. No one else can do it. Get her a copy of "you can heal your life" by louise hay

Answer 4

When she says she doesn't know who she is and that you are a wonderful husband but she just is unhappy sometimes, it means that now her body and self image has changed and she is trying to figure it out (and the she appreciates you sticking by her).

Don't stop going after her because that will drop her self esteem even more. Tell her that you will support her in her efforts to flatten her stomach but that you don't really see the point in it because she is already so beautiful.

She has lost her own sexual identity and it might be a while before she finds it again. Be patient and encourage her gently.

Get her to take control in the bedroom, tell her you want her to be on top or choose the position.

Hope all goes well. Sound like the two of you are a really amazing couple.  

Answer 5

Make a deal with her to take turns with initiating s*x. There does have to be a deadline though, she can't wait a month when it's her turn. Even a quickie in the morning or afternoon will work, it doesn't always have to be long and hot--you guys like it all!! After all, you have to feel wanted too, and if she doesn't make you feel that way, someone else eventually will, which is what happened with my hubby and I wouldn't want that to happen to you and your wife. Good luck and lots of peace love and joy to you, my friend.

Answer 6

Try reading some of her romance novels...or look through a copy of Cosmo if that's what she reads. Take some of the hints. Give her a bubble bath, wash her from head to toe....she will appreciate the gesture and rest assured, she will reciprocate with what you want. Cook dinner, let her take the night off, rub her feet, do the little things you used to do that made her fall in love with you. I'm sure that you will see great results.

Answer 7

Just shove it in her mouth.

Answer 8

Stop thinking about yourself. You are the man, you should initiate the s*x. And with your enormous wang I am sure she is very grateful, and thinks nearly as much of you as you do about yourself.

Answer 9

It seems silly that she would be so insecure with her belly... sounds to me like she has a great body, and that you make it clear that you love her body just the way it is... I would just constantly remind her how s**y you think she is, and tell her that you wish she could see how s**y she really is, and that you love her body and that it is perfect just the way it is... and when she does make small initatory moves towards you, let her know how much you love it. "Oh baby I love it so much when you come onto me" - That type of thing.  

Answer 10

I went through this but the opposite way around....my guy rarely initiated it.....it was always me. SO........I quit doing it for a while. When she notices that you have stopped she'll wonder why......then say "I figured when you wanted to you would try...I'm always ready for it!"

That'll work.

Answer 11

Your getting a lot more then I am. I wish my wife would initiate but she does not. I get turned down when I try so just be happy she gives in to you. I wish you wife was my wife.

Answer 12

Same question?  What, you didn't like the answers from before?

My answer remains the same.  Go back and check it if you want.

Answer 13

Maybe she feels like you don't "see her" anymore. That's not always your fault. Maybe she's feeling insecure because she's had kids and she doesn't feel like you're attracted to her anymore, but from what you've said, it doesn't sound like you're ignoring her at all. It's a bump in the road that you will eventually overcome. Maybe go out and buy her a new dress or something (that is, if you're one of the lucky few that has extra income these days because of gas and food prices, LOL)

You sound like you're a great guy, just help her along the way, she'll snap out of it.