What to do when a 7yr old gets a love note from classmate?

Question

The note is very explicit from another seven year old in her class. It reads:

J loves B. I love you B. I want to s*x you B. A stick figure pic with him on the bed and him on top of her. At the bottom is another stick figure of both of them, with his p***s drawn and its pointing to her name and his name. It says I love you B from J.

Her teacher intercepted other notes but I guess this one got through. I want to go to the principal and get him out of her school. What to do people? I'm going crazy. And Im upset because we found the letter in a party bag that she got on Saturday. What to say to her? She is away on spring break and will be back tonight. I need to be straight up because its like she knows what its about.

Answer 1

Talk to your daughter in a calm, but serious way. Tell her that what the boy wrote was not good. It makes one wonder just what's going on in this young boys home. Be sure to talk to the teachers about it, and make sure you get a satisfactory answers.

Answer 2

When my son was in 4th grade, another boy was saying that when he was older he was going to have a s*x change.  He wasn't directing anything to the other kids, but when it got back to the teacher, she went to the principal and they called his parents in because it was sexual harassment to the other kids.  Even though  he was talking about himself and not about other kids.  The principal told the parents they would have to take him to counselling, get something done or he could not come back to school.  So, this 7 yr old boy is a lot worse off than that.  This is a DEFINITE case of sexual harassment.

Answer 3

If shes 7, then tell the principal and tell him to find the boy, and the boy should get punished.

Innapropriate for any age, at any school. A kid got suspended because he put some hardcore picture in a girls locker saying "I wanna do this to you, _____. Call me on _____ for some fun" at my school.

Answer 4

My personal opinion is think rationally here. they are 7, still children. I would not get the school involved, I would go directly to the parents of the other child. This problem comes from the home, sounds like little Johnny is watching adult tv at night. It can be an innocent thing and to bring the school into it causes embarassment to you, your child, the boy, the other parents, is this the reaction you're ready for? Kids say stupid things, let's remember that 7 years olds don't really have the mental capacity of an adult. You should talk to your daughter on her level about s*x. Just because a little boy draws stick figures doens't mean he's been raped or sexually abused.

Answer 5

Ya my son came home the other day talking about s*x he is also 7.  I told him "s*x is an adult word" and when he is older we will talk about that word but for now he doesn't need to be talking about it because it's not a word for a kid to be using.

Since then he has not said anything

The picture your saying that she got from this boy tells me this boy might have gotten raped or sexually assulted.  I would notify the cops

Answer 6

OMG. That is horrifying. 7 years old!!!   I would definitely speak with the principal or maybe that boy's parents. Though it doesn't sound like he has a healthy homelife. But maybe he has older brothers that are a bad influence. You need to speak to people about it at the school definitely. Involve the teachers.  Maybe speak with the school counselor about how to deal with your daughter.

Answer 7

My 8 year old boy thinks that s*x is just kissing. I think that you should speak to J's parents about the note and see how they react. Hopefully, he just saw a little too much on TV. Just speak to your daughter about the note and don't make a big deal about it.  Just because he writes explicit notes doesn't mean she does.

Answer 8

This is no big deal at all.  Actually it is quite normal.  This little boy is obviously very in touch with himself and a free spirit.  He crossed no line severely.  He did not touch your girl against her will.  He is communicating.  At the very most he needs to be told that those feelings and desires are OK.  But it is not appropriate to send notes in school or if a girl tells him to stop sending them.  He is not sick.  He is very healthy actually.  He just needs some minor talking to about boundries.  He should be fine.  Chances are this kid will grow up with a very clear and happy life.  Kudos to him for being of superior intellectual development.  Jus have the little talk about boundries.

Answer 9

wow, not the ideal time to be having "the talk" with your daughter, but you might wanna now!! You need to let her know that this is wrong, and also let her know that it is wrong for anyone to touch her on any of her private areas..u probably alreay know this but, make sure she understands it!! And i would also be taking this letter to the parents of the boy and get them to talk to him, maybe someone is doing something to him that is inappropriate and he thinks this is normal.. anything could be goin on in this kinda situation!! Good luck, i hope all works out!!

Answer 10

Wow, that's terrible.  After talking to your daughter about the "birds and the bees" and letting her know that this type of behavior is NOT acceptable, I would go straight to the school and talk to the principal.  The child writing the notes MUST be punished, and if you want to take it further...  well technically your daughter is being sexually harassed.

Answer 11

Wow, I was just expecting  To so-and-so, I like you alot. From so-and-so.

I think you need to contact the school. Even though the other notes were intercepted they may not have been anything like this. This child that sent this sounds as though he may have been molested or may still be being molested and needs help.

Answer 12

Just calm down. They are just kids alot of kids knew about s*x when I was in the 1st  and 2nd grade. It could be the little boy's parents but I doubt it. Just think about the music you may be letting your child listen to, what she watches, how often she's on the internet and ect. And don't forget other kids tell each other what they've heard and seen. She obviously knows what the boy is talking about. Don't get the school involved just contact the boy's parents. This could be embarrassing for her because all the teachers will know, the principle will know and she'll obviously be going to that school for awhile. I would have hated that.

Answer 13

Talk to her..... obviously she knows what it means, but doesn't know how serious it is. Tell her how wrong it is, and bring the issue up with the principal.

Answer 14

Obviously, your first concern is your daughter.  She's an innocent little girl who has drawn the attention of a very troubled little boy.  It appears that she knew the note was there.  So, certainly she would try to keep that from you.  But you have to let her know, in NO uncertain terms, that this is wrong and could cause her major harm.  It doesn't sound like she's guilt of anything, other than hiding her love notes.  A big question I have is, if there have been other notes and the teacher was aware of this, why hasn't something been done about this boy?  My boys are both grown, but I don't remember them being quite so well informed at that age.  The second concern is, where is this boy getting all this information?  He's 7 years old.  What has he seen, or been subjected to, to understand an erect p***s and copulation?  I think the best course of action would be to contact Child Protective Services and have them investigate what's going on in this boy's home.  You may be able to protect your daughter and help this little boy at the same time.

Answer 15

You ARE crazy to go nuts like this. We are talking about 7-year olds here, okay? The surest thing you'll probably do is traumatize your daughter about s*x if you freak out on her.

Tell the teacher, get them to tell the other kid's parents to have a talk with him. End of story.

Children often don't even understand what is going on when they learn about s*x - and they'll make stupid jokes and cartoons about it as part of their learning process. He probably just has a crush on her and doesn't know how to express himself.

PLEASE don't freak out.

Answer 16

talk to your daughter about it and then find out who the parents are of  this kid and explain wat she received from their child