What to do when my 1 year old hits me in anger?

Question

I have a very calm 13 month old, who listens very well, but there have been a few instances where, when I am telling him to be nice, ie. when he hits the dogs or me and my husband, he gets angry and hits me or pulls on my shirt. He knows what he is doing is bad because he will look me in the eye when he hits me in retaliation. Is this normal?? What do I need to do before he does this to another child?? PLEASE HELP ME!

Answer 1

yeah a lot of ignorant answers here telling you to hit him back...yeah that will really teach him how wrong hitting is. I can't believe people could be that ignorant.

Tell him in a firm voice "No, we don't hit, I don't like that" and then put him in time out for 1 minute and ignore him completely giving zero attention. Then when the minute is over take him out of time out and tell him "be gentle" and show him what gentle is by softly rubbing his arm and saying "be gentle".

As he becomes more verbal you can expand the discussion when he comes out of time out to include him telling you he is sorry.

Do this EVERY time he does it and he will get the point. You should not use the crib he sleeps in for time out. I would use a separate playpen set up in the main room (living room) with nothing in it for time out. If you use the crib he will think he is in trouble at bedtime.

Answer 2

Hit him back.  Be consistent, show him it is wrong.

You are mommy, tell him You do not hit mommy.

This is the best way and it teaches him right.

Spare the rod spoil the child.

The Bible

Answer 3

make him stand in the corner and done let him move. at his age 30 seconds will do. it may sound like a short time but to him it is an eternity!!! and no, don't hit him back . that's telling him that if mommy can hit then its okay to hit too!!!

Answer 4

Pick him up and put him in his crib for a time out immediately.  Do not respond to cries, etc. it is just to manipulate you.

Answer 5

Either discipline him now, or wait until he does something worse to the dog, and the dog will teach him a lesson himself.

Answer 6

One thing you can try is when he does this, since it's obvious he's begun sprouting little wings to test, you need to take him carefully by his shoulders, and gently yet firmly plop him onto his behind and say "NO hit!"... our kids hated that with a passion! He's too young for a spanking at this point, but you CAN still instill discipline in him. It may take a few times also, because the begin to REALLY try the waters, and typically persist if they have stronger temperaments-like all three of ours! :)

And as for normal, yes. Stronger willed kids will DEFINATELY do these things. There is NOTHING wrong with him-you just have a tough little guy! :)

Answer 7

When he hits you, pick him up and set him down in whatever you use for timeout. Tell him that hitting is NOT ok, and that he is going to sit there for one miniute because of it. Then, stand in front of him and completly ignore any crying until the minute is up. When it is over, explain say one more time "NO hitting", then let him go play.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Hit him back

Answer 9

say in a very stern voice "no hitting" and give some form of consequence such as time out.

Answer 10

Grab him by the shoulders, face him to you, NOT letting him turn away, speak to him in a VEERRY scary voice and tell him it's NOT acceptable.  If he continues to be bad, shut him away in his room, no matter how long he fights and screams, until he stops, even if it takes 3 hours.  Do NOT go in to him even for a visit until he stops.

Answer 11

plant a smack on his butt