What to do when "it" hurts - a lot?

Question

Firstly, I am not too young, just inexperienced. And so is he. We have been trying to have s*x for months but it just hurts so much. He says there is something wrong with me but I don't know what it is. What could be wrong? We have tried at least 50 times over the past 6 months. I think he is thinking of leaving me. Help! Please?

Answer 1

I think your main focus should be on the last couple of things you said.  My main concern is the fact that you said you think he might leave you if you can't have s*x "properly."  If s*x is all that he's in it for, you need to end the relationship now.  

Answer 2

Your probably 11 or 12 or something that's why >_>

Answer 3

I agree with Thunderblade most definitely. >_>

Answer 4

I agree see a doctor.  

Answer 5

you both need to relax other wise it will continue hurting set the mood and try don't go straight into the act , play around first plenty of foreplay and then when you feel ready then start but remember to take it slow and I'm sure that will work if not get some lubricant but its not your fault hun and he may be covering up his insecurity's by blaming you so maybe try talking to him ,enjoy but only when your ready

good luck hun and remember to be safe  

Answer 6

One word.  Lubricant.

Get some KY Jelly from the chemist/pharmacy.  You'll find it next to the condoms.

Answer 7

Use lots of lube and have him finger you for awhile. Wear a comdom for less friction. Turn the lights off it may help you relax or even have a couple shots. And your guy sounds like a jerk for putting so much pressure on you. So tell him to be pascent or use his hand!    

Answer 8

listen hun its not u if he knew what 2 do in the first place it would b fine u need foreplay without s*x 4 a while let him turn u on first ok.