What to do when your boyfriend is having trouble with confidence in hiself (not sexually)?

Question

My guy who I've been with for 3 years is having some trouble with himself. He lacks confidence in himself and wants to be more social (cuz hez not). He's a quiet guy, and he doesn't like to party or be around a lot of people, he also doesn't have too many friends either. I don't know what to do. I want to help him but it's just hard. (I'm the oposite him (read the social one in the relationship). Any help?

Answer 1

There are all kinds of people in this world.  There's nothing wrong or bad about being and introvert.  That's where all his development will begin.  If he desires to be more social, he can take the "baby step" method.  Start with one good friend and develop more friendships from there, slowly.  Maybe the answer lies in his reason for being that way.  You two really have to communicate about this.  Will he not go to parties with you and you're unhappy about that?  You two have been together for quite some time.  There has to be a strong love relationship there.  Key word:  LOVE.  Meaning acceptance and tolerance and patience.  If he really wants to come out of his shell, he will but he'll have to develop that confidence from within.  Maybe a hobby, or a church function; or a close friend of his who makes him feel comfortable could bring out that shyness.  If not, then that's just the way he is.  The same loveable man that you've remained with for the last three years.

Answer 2

Try to bring him out in a very encouraging way, and be supportive of any feelings he has.  Also, try not to force him to do anything faster than he is comfortable with.  I would suggest he meets people by going to something he is interested in because knowing he has something in common with people will help.

Answer 3

you gotta take him to more parties with you or to hang out with you and your friends. break him in slowly... my ex was the same way and wasn't confident with himself at all. i told him to not think about what other people cared about him as long as i did. he started coming with me to hang out with my friends and party and slowly he started being more social and confident with himself. just don't rush him into anything. =)