What to do while ex is having time with his child at my house?

Question

what do i do while my ex is at my house seeing his son?

I dont want to get in the way or feel like i am intruding but i dont know what to do with myself?? help

Answer 1

make a snack for them dont feel acward hes a person just like you.

Answer 2

What a great opportunity to get away and get some errands done.  Do your weekly grocery shopping (alone - ahhhhh...), window shop at the mall, schedule your personal doctor's or dentist appointment during that time.  Sit in the drive way and catch up with friends on the phone, OH, I could think of so many things.  Consider this a babysitter if you trust him in your home, I guess.

Answer 3

You should go out and do whatever you please and enjoy yourself whilst your son is being looked after. :O) Plus those are the only times that you might actually get a brake so go have some fun. x

Answer 4

Go and get pampered somewhere if you can afford to if not go to a friends for coffee or a nice walk on a good day.

Answer 5

Would be an ideal time to do your shopping, visit friends, do the garden etc etc

Answer 6

I have this same problem.  If it's dry I send them in the garden while I stay in the house.  But I find I can't concentrate on anything, or relax, so can't get things done properly, and it just feels like such a waste of time.

I usually surf the internet, it doesn't require concentration, and it fills time.  Go on answers!

Answer 7

Just be yourself. I mean you were with him at one time and he knows you just don't make it awkward.  

Answer 8

What about getting on with general house hold chores whilst your ex is there. That way you get a nice clean home, and you can avoid talking to your ex.

Answer 9

I used to do the same thing with my ex too. I would just go get stuff done, laundry, shopping etc. I hated the feeling of him being in my house but at least I knew my child was safe!

Answer 10

I understand what you're going through. In my case, I am not comfortable letting my son go out with his sperm donor (on the rare occasion that he comes and sees him) so I let him come to my house and see my baby here.

What I do is stick around for a while to make sure that my son is comfortable with this stranger, then I go into another room and do something for myself, constantly listening for my son to make sure he is okay. I do scrapbooking, play on the computer, do some extra cleaning, laundry, or just watch a movie all by myself.

It takes a while to get used to. If you're comfortable just leaving the house, arrange for you to go out with your girlfriends during that time, or go shopping and get yourself something special.  

Answer 11

Excuse me.... Why is your ex seeing HIS (emphasis, not shouting)  son at your house? Number one, he is your ex, with whom you do not get on, so why is he at your house in the first place?. Number two, if it is HIS (ditto) son and not both of yours son, why is he at your house? As it appears from your Q this poor child is from a previous relationship of his, neither he, nor the child, should be in your home full stop.

If I have mis-interpreted the Q then apologies...  If it is as appears, you need do nothing, it is his responsibility to provide a safe environment for the child and he to be together, not yours.

If the child is son to both of you, then suggest he takes him outside his usual environment and learn what it is to entertain, educate and amuse a child. Failing that, you have "time out" time and spend it doing all the things you cannot do whilst your child is with you. A brief lesson..... If I have mis-interpreted your Q, what is it with "his child" "his son"? This little boy was a joint effort, he is not his, he is not yours, he is entitled to both. You both need to be adults and do what is best for the child, as ye sow so shall ye reap!  

Answer 12

Seems a bit odd that you don't feel included...I mean you must have a good relationship to have let him see the child at your house? Does your partner live elsewhere? Why isnt he seeing his son there? You should suggest that he takes his son out to the park or somehwere nice that kids like and then that he brings him back for dinner...maybe the child could help you and your partner make the dinner and then you can all talk round the table as you eat?

Answer 13

I use to go to the gym and beat the **** outa the punching bag imagining it was my ex, always worked for me lol