What to do with a 4 yr old who only seems to respond to physical and ignores any positive or simply talking.?

Question

What to do with a 4 yr old who only seems to respond to physical and ignores any positive or simply talking.?

Answer 1

Can she be deaf?

If that's not the case you may want to take her to a professional that is specialized at children problems.

Answer 2

maybe have them checked out with a DR for hearing impairments... or autism. Also try not giving them what it is that they are wanting until they respond vocally. Praise them when they do good. If they are having trouble talking have them go to a DR for speech impairments. If they do not do something the way that you want them to (response wise) don't tell them no try telling them try that again this way... or what is it that you want.  

Answer 3

It would be good if you would clarify.  Do you mean, your child only changes their behavior when they are spanked/physically punished?  

It's possible that spanking has been his most consistent consequences.  It may be helpful to remove him from the situation that is causing trouble, to a quieter place, so he is able to concentrate on you and what you are saying.

On a side note, I read the book "1-2-3 Magic," and it has worked wonders with  my three year old.  I hardly ever feel the need to spank with the techniques outlined in this book.  It's incredible-practical, easy to do, and extremely effective.  I work with families and children in school and I have a psychology degree, and it's the only thing I've found that works for me and my family.

Answer 4

There's not a lot of detail in your question, but it reminds me of my son who has autism. Simply talking to him doesn't always generate a response, but usually touching him (not hitting!) get his attention.

Answer 5

Ok, first act like you about to give her a smack or what ever [don't really do it though], then she/he will respond because she/he thinks you're about to hit her/him, that's when you get her/him and sit her/him down and make sure she/he understands that you want good for her/him and she/he need to start correcting her/his wrongs, and/or clean up her/his act.

OR

Another thing you can do is get something that he/she likes and take it away until he/she learns the lesson.