What to do with an uneven wedding party??

Question

Here's my situation:

I have 3 brothers. I do not have a lot of close girlfriends. I have 5 I picked to be on my side as bridesmaids, the only 5 close friends I have. My fiance has a lot of close guy friends. We had asked my 3 brothers to be in the wedding since you cant have one without the others. That makes 7 on his side and he is not crazy about it due to the fact he is not close with any of them at this point. I do not want to have girls in the wedding that I am not even close with! What do we do with my other 2 brothers??

Someone please help! We are getting married on 4th of July 2009 and need to pick the wedding party now. I need suggestions. And what about the dance with the whole wedding party? Who would they dance with?

Answer 1

  they could be ushers, so they are still helping with the wedding.

or you could just send the two extra guys down the aslie together, not linked arms or anything just walking.  my brother and his wife had guys on both sides of the wedding party so guys had to walk down together, it wasnt weird as it sounds i promise.

  and you dont even HAVE to do a dance with the whole wedding party if you dont want to.  neither of my brothers did, im not going to, and i havent been to any other weddings that have had the whole bridal party dance.  so its not like anyone is gonna miss it if you dont want to do it

Answer 2

Have the "uneven" men enter before the processional.  Or have all the men enter before and have the girls enter by themselves (I personally like that better).

You should allow the bridal party to bring dates anyway (they shouldn't be tied to their opposite-s*x bridal party partner all night) so they can dance with their dates during the "bridal party dance".  I don't even know if you need that, I've never heard of a dance where all the guests watch just the bridal party dance (only the bride/groom and bride/father, groom/mother). I don't think that's really necessary.

Answer 3

Try making the two extra men be ushers so that way they are not apart from the wedding but they are not at  the front.if yu have to place them up front try having them walk the mothers of both yu nd yur furture husband to there seats and have them dance with the mothers when the whole weeding party is dancing.

Answer 4

Have your brothers be ushers (two or all three) and leave it at that.  As for the dance, it's not required.  Most of the time the attendants appreciate not having to dance with people they don't know anyway.  You could allow the wedding party to dance with their spouses or dates instead of each other, which would be a nice thing for you to do, and offer to partner up single party members as needed, or whatnot.  You don't need to create a perfect show, here. This is about becoming husband and wife in the company of those you love and cherish most - not putting on a display.

Answer 5

When my fiance's cousin got married in 2005 she had an extra girl in the bridal party (which happened to be me haha) and at the church she had one guy walk down the aisle with two girls...it was cute in the pictures and turned out really well because the guy was acting like a "pimp", so you could always do something like that, and for the reception everyone just danced together anyway so it didn't quite matter!