What to do with an unruly juvenile?

Question

He is 15. He is my boyfriend's son. Everyone has kicked him out. He is currently living with me but last night I smack him across the face and he went back to his mothers, but is begging to come back. He swears, he smokes, he steals, he has emotion problems and I cant seem to help this kid. What have I gotten myself into. His parents wont called the police on him but I think it's time. He is gonna get himself killed. He is going to cause my boyfriend and I to break up. Am I wrong for being the one who thinks it's time to scare this kid and call the cops on him. He is violent and I get afraid.

Answer 1

I'd have to say the best thing would be to show him he's loved, and he's a great kid, but when he does something wrong, he needs to be punished. Set certain punishments for certain things. If he swears at you, he should do the dishes, if he steals he should be grounded for a week. Just make the rules, and stick to them. He'll soon learn. The best thing to do would be to start straight away with the punishments for serious things. The not so serious things can wait until he's used to the ground rules. If you stop him doing anything that isn't perfect straight away, he might just ignore you completely. If you tell him to stop smoking, but then make sure you don't walk in when he's smoking, or let him know that you know he still smokes, he'll feel good that he still has control over his life. Once he's settled down and stopped doing illegal things, you can help him to stop smoking, and other little things.  If this doesn't work, you should definitely call the police and have them keep him overnight, that would be better for him, but it might make him hate you.

Good Luck anyways.

Answer 2

sounds like it is time to get law enforcement involved.  next time he is at your place and starts being unruly or out of control, call law enforcement out.  if he gets an attitude with the law it could be a reality check for him.  its time that someone put their foot down and get this kid the wake up call he needs.  law enforcement will send their report to juvenile probation and that should get the ball rolling.  be sure that when he is at your house he knows the rules and that there are consequences if he does not follow them.  if he doesnt like the consequences and breaks the rules, call the police on him again.  sounds like this kid had never had any one take the time to care about him and they all gave up on him.  that is what he is used to.  you just might be a good influence on him even if it means calling the police on him.  he might not like you for it but in the end... it will be what was best for him.

Answer 3

send him to a military boarding school =/

or warn him first.

Answer 4

I think that you should definately call the cops so that he'll realize that this isn't a joke!

Answer 5

he could have anger depression. my brother had that and he would try to kill me. talk to his parents about therapy. usually therapists figure out if they have depression or whatever, not doctors. and if he does, get him on some medication and take him to therapy. my brothers friend was the exact same way, and now hes in foster care because his parents didn't do anything and they couldn't control him.

Answer 6

send him too jail tough love

cuz if eating pus$y was a crime i should start gettin ready for my jail vistis weezy f baby

Answer 7

what does the father think???it is HIS kid. and u smacked him?? huh,if u smacked my kid id kill ya. that takes nerve.its not ur place,i dont care what he does.let the father deal....u will only make it worse.

AND WHAT DOES THE FATHER THINK OF U CALLING THE COPS?DOES HE KNOW?

ITS STILL NOT YOUR PLACE. LET THE FATHER HANDLE IT.YES U SAY U DO ALOT FOR HIM,MAYBE ITS TIME TO STOP THEN.YOUR NEVER SUPPOSE TO PUT YOUR HANDS ON A KID THATS NOT YOURS,ITS JUST WRONG.GLAD HE AINT MINE....

Answer 8

either send him to military school, or put him in the army.  if he is in a structured evironment, with a future, he may have some hope about his life.  It sounds like no one cares about him that he needs.  (like his mom and dad)

And, if you haven't already, take him to a child psychologist, and see if there is something possibly wrong with his physical make up.