What to do with cheating husband...?

Question

I found out last night that my husband (he was my fiance when he cheated) had cheated on me right before we got married. From what it seems it was sort of a "last fling" thing. It was with a girl he didn't really know that i don't know, and it was only once and just s*x. Absolutely nothing else and he says he is most def done and it was a mistake. Blah Blah normal c**p. I'm not all that upset about it.... but i am not sure how i should handle it really. We have been completely happy and everything has been fine since. But I'm just not sure... any advice or suggestions to help us move on would be appreciated.

Answer 1

how'd u find out and how long have u been married?  everything was ok til this point and u had no doubts so i would be pissed but i would just watch his movements and decide for myself whether i believe it was just a last fling or what  

Answer 2

He should of extended the COURTESY and let you know it was OK to have "One Last Fling" so you could go get your bit of strange too!

What an azzclown, I would leave him........any man that makes a promise to marry should keep it in his d**n pants..........I bet he EXPECTED YOU to be faithful, didn't he?!!

ADD ON- And I agree with Illegal Eagle.....men like this are "JUSTIFIERS" they will always have a good excuse to cheat on you.

ADD ON- You have been married ONE MONTH and he did this TWO WEEKS before the wedding?

If you don't DUMP HIM YOU ARE STUPID!  I am sorry, you stay, he will do it again!  he will just hide it better in the future.

Answer 3

i give you credit. that would always be in the back of my mind. have you asked him how he would feel if you did what he did to you? he needs to really have some kind of empathy of what you are going through so you can get through this.  

Answer 4

Girl, if that was me I would have canceled the wedding date.

Men have this little mentality that its okay to sleep around until they say "I Do." But some still creep after that.

From my experience (i'm not married tho), if they get away with it 1 time they will most likely do it again.

Answer 5

He'll do it again.

Answer 6

Since it was before you were married Don't manke a big deal about(he was still wrong though)!!

But keep him on a leash and watch him!!  I don't know the reason why he would all of a sudden tell you  that!

Answer 7

Well I must admit, this is not a good sign, him cheating right before the wedding. This could be a good indicator of how the marriage may end up, based on lies and deceit. I feel if you would not have caught him he would have hid it from you, but because you caught him, he had no choice but to confess. But overall, I feel that he too was trying to get his little fun out before he settled down with you. Since this marriage is so young and since you seem to be forgiving, I would give him another chance, but I would keep a very close eye on him. I am sure if he messes up again, you will catch him since he is so sloppy at hiding the evidence. So give him a chance, but if he messes up again as a married man, then you both need to get some counseling or reconsider the marriage.

Answer 8

Refuse to have unprotected s*x with him until you both get tested for STDs and HIV and the tests come back clean.  That will make him think twice about what he did, and twice before doing it again.  

Answer 9

For me it would depend on how long we have been married when I found this out.  If it was last month, I might have a problem adjusting, but if we have been married for many good years, then I think I could get over it.

Answer 10

If you've been together for a long time and you trust him regardless of this one time (assuming it was only the one time) then forget about it and move on.

Answer 11

How long ago was this???

If its years then I suppose you move on if you can, if its recent then surely someone doesn't cheat once then give it up, normaly they are serial offenders.