What to do with my brother

Question

well my brother got his girlfriend pregnant, and well i dont want him to be the babys father, i know it sounds bad but he is 19, an alocholic and abusive, im 14 and he moved out a year ago but living with him for the 13 years has been a h**l, when he left i wasnt depressed and i felt like someone be cause he made me feel like i didnt matter and i was a nobody, anywho he and his girlfriend moved in my parents house (of course thats where i live) but everyday he come over and smacks me if i comment on anything and then calls me an a$$hole because i comnented on something and says every body in the house is tired of my S**t attitude when he is the only one who hates me but i think he might be abusive to his daughter when she is a little older, i wish he was dead to be honest, but im thinking about going to a mental health person to get some anti depresents sorry for the long story but any advice would be great, and if anyone in the same boat as me good luck

Answer 1

You need to talk to your parents if he is hitting you. Tell them about your concerns for him. They will understand. You obviously don't hate your brother because you're concerned about his child. You never know the baby might influence him to change his attitude. But if you're being abused you need to tell someone you trust.  

Answer 2

just move out coz no one gives a S**t

Answer 3

well..don't wish your brother dead..

even though he's such an a$$hole..sorry for the term..he's still your brother..no matter how you hate him..one blood flows through your veins..why don't you open it up with your parents..they might help you..and give you a better advice too..that's a family problem your facing..and family problems can only be resolved with the help of you family too..sorry if there's something wrong on how i deliver my words..i'm not good at it..

Answer 4

Wow, and I though my sister was terrible. I'm so sorry. *Virtual hug*  its okay. But if your reallly concerned about that baby (which is so cute!) Then you should go to his girlfriend and tell her what your concerned about. Also if your brother was really doing all that horrible things to you then you should of had a talk with your parents about that a looooonnnnggg time ago. Trust me. If I wouldn't have to tattled on my sister for every time she would make me feel like dirt or HITT me 'till my face turned pink, I think I would be the most depressed people on earth. But Im not and Im very happy! Becuase now she semi-respects me. Seriously no one has a right to lay a finger on anybody. Go to your parents. If they don't do anything, the next time your brother hits you, its time to call the big guns in. (The police, lol!)

1 more thing when you said you hope hes not the father do you mean she had s*x behind his back with someone else? If not then your brother really is the father. Sorry. Good Luck.

P.S if you can tell your brother that I SAID THIS get some respect for women!

Good luck!

Answer 5

Ok. No one cares.

Answer 6

This baby could be just the wake up call he needs hun. Now your brother will have some one who is totally dependant on him. This baby will either make him or brake him.

I know he's been horrible to you, but try to be there for your little niece or nephew, it's not the baby's fault, he/she didn't ask to be born.

Try to be the best aunt/uncle you can possibly be, love this baby & accept him/her into your life.

Good Luck. X :-)

Answer 7

Hate is a strong word. You probably hate the way your brother is behaving and the way he is treating you, but you do not hate him as a person. You would miss him if something happened to him and deep down you know that. I think that the baby's mother has biggest say in this. She is the one carrying their child and she is the one that is going to be giving birth to it, so the majority of final decisions will legally be up to her. What has she said about all this ? What does your brother think ? Personally, if he is willing to stand by his girlfriend and even make the attempt of facing up to his responsibilities and being a dad to this child, then even though i do not know him, i have a lot of respect for the bloke. These days, a man not running away from the responsibility of being a dad is a rare occurrence. Personally, i think you should give him a chance. Be there for him and rather then criticizing him, support him and give him that much needed encouragement. For all you know he could make an excellent dad. Him hitting you does not nesacerly mean he hates you. I suggest you talk to him, try and find out how he is feeling and what is going on in his life. Regardless of what he is like, he is your brother and nothing is going to change that, so at least make the effort to get on with him. If you have a good relationship with them, then siblings are great. I have got  a little brother and a little sister and as much as i hate to admit it, they are 2 of the most important people in my life.

Answer 8

he sounds like a douchebag...he's 19 and he's just immature...alot of people get a false sense of toughness when they turn 18....it's just a phase that'll probably last a few years until he grows up (if he does)....that being said, gives him no right to touch you or anyone else and use negativity towards you....don't get antidepressants...what you're experiencing is normal...toughen up a bit...life can be tough, you don't even want to know about my life...I have lived the life of hard knocks and I've personally been through a hellish life....seriously, just toughen up a bit and don't let it get you down...hold your head up high...doesn't mean you have to be a ***** back to him but just hold your ground...tell him, you touch me or smack me again, Im calling the cops and having you arrested...and don't be afraid to tell him this in front of your parents or if your parents are taking his side, dont be afraid of them either....if he hits you call the cops...have his loser *** arrested...bottom line...grow a backbone and stand up for yourself...people will respect you more, you'll have a higher sense of self esteem and maybe he'll grow up a bit or if not, you have nothing to lose.....just stand up for yourself....be a bit tougher....it's not that difficult...honest....good luck...:)