What to do with my g*y best friend?

Question

My best friend just admitted that he's g*y. How do I tell him he's wrong?

Answer 1

stfu get a life and get out of his, if he's g*y he's g*y and it's not your choice to say he's wrong

Answer 2

you don't, you love him and support him because he is your best friend, what is he supposed to do if his best friend won't even support him.  what if you really needed support from him and he shot you down. wouldn't you hate him for it.

you need a reality check.

Answer 3

How do you know he's wrong?  He trusted you with this information.  And your reaction has no respect for his trust.  This situation says more about you than about him.

Go ahead.  Thumb me down, what other reaction did you expect here?  I appreciate your candor, but try to absorb a little honesty.

Answer 4

I like how you left out like the biggest and most important detail. lol.

He is not wrong. YOU are wrong to think he is wrong, because that is just plain wrong. He trusted and "loved" you enough to tell you his deepest secret and you turn your back on him? Because of what? Old feelings....

You should be happy that you have a good friend like him not sad or mad.

Answer 5

Because you would know that he is mistakened?

What you can do is be supportive. He's going to need supportive friends, not ones trying to change him or tell him he's wrong.

The real question is, which kind of friend will you be?

Answer 6

I hope you just worded this wrong..

Because there's nothing wrong with being g*y..

>.>

I'd suggest trying to learn to accept this...

[[To your edit: It is odd, yes, but does love really need s*x to thrive? If you're that devoted to him, I'd think you would've considered it ^^;]]

Answer 7

You should probably sit down and have a long, nice chat with him about how's he wrong. If he can't seem to understand, then maybe take him to a Catholic church and see if your local priest can help. Remember: hate the sin, love the sinner! Good luck!

Answer 8

You don't.  Worry about yourself and let him live his life without your judgemental behaviour.  You are NO friend.

Ok, so you are in love with him but he's not in love with you. You sound as though you planned his future for him and are now upset that he has the audacity to not follow through with YOUR plans.

Answer 9

Uh wow. I don't even know how to react to this.

How do you know he's "wrong"?

Answer 10

you don't tell him he's wrong just because he's g*y

Answer 11

Only he knows for sure if he's wrong or not... it's not like a math question where you know whether he's right or wrong. "Wait, but I was in love with him. I was planning on marriage and kids. He told me he'd still marry me, but that he just wouldn't have s*x with me. This isn't fair, now is it?"  Well, no... it's not fair that's why he shouldn't marry a girl because if he's g*y he probably won't even love you and you should find a straight guy to marry.

Answer 12

You don't because he's not wrong. s***w your religion, whatever it is.

Answer 13

A writer I like once defined love as "that state where someone else's happiness is more important to you than your own."  You love him?  Let him be him.  Try to understand the enormous trust in you and respect for you he had to come out to you.  Would you rather he'd married you, lived unhappy for ten years, THEN told you?  And left you standing there with a broken marriage and possibly kids?

You love him?  Then support him.  If you can't, I think you need to question if you really loved him, or simply liked the idea of being his wife and a mother.

Answer 14

How is HE wrong?

It's wrong of you to tell him what he is is wrong.

Homosexuality isn't wrong, it's just a state of being.

Answer 15

Just because he likes something different to you definitely does not mean he's wrong.

My advice: Keep him as a best friend and you will find another guy later on in your life who will want to start a family and marry you. It is really the only reasonable choice you've got here.