What to do with my s*x addict "playboy" boyfriend?

Question

Ok, I have been with my brazilian boyfriend for more then a year now. I`m 18 he is 21.and he is a really sweet guy.He is hardworking,self-established and really handsome, the boy of my dreams.

He keeps asking for s*x but the thing I come from a very strict family and believe in no s*x before marriage and I`ve told him this.So instead he sleeps with other girls and he has a reputation of being a "playboy" but he says he will stop all this if I give it up to him.

Also he has been quite patient with me and tells me he would like to get married to only me but now he is starting to get frustrated and has told me to my face he has been sleeping around with other girls and calls me "dull and boring" He has a strong s*x drive and says he can`t get enough of it but said he would never leave me.

Whenever we have a big argument or when he`s away he sends me gifts.Also, on valentines day he took me to the Spa and on christmas we had a great time in Paris.

In addition, he has done a lot for me and is a caring guy.

Answer 1

I dated a guy a bit like this.  Same age scenario, same age gap.  He put a bit too much pressure on be about the s*x issue, and he ultimately broke up with me because of it.

You shouldn't have to succumb to his s*x drive.  That's not love, lusting after other girls because he just can't wait.  Who's to say that he won't get bored later on in the relationship and drop you? I hate to say it, but guys like this only want one thing...

Maybe you two should take a break.  Either he'll realize what a lucky girl he's let go, or he'll keep on the path of sleeping with other women...

It's not fair for you to be treated this way, to be made to feel guilty.

Answer 2

omg what a loser i cant believe u put up with him sleeping with other girls what is wrong with you????

Answer 3

You don't seem to care that he sleeps with other women.  I think you first need to decide whether you're really ok with that.  What if he has caught diseases which he will pass on to you if you got married?  But you seem to care about him too much to break up with him and like you say, when he's not like this he seems to be a great guy.  If you are ok with the way he is, then just make sure he knows your morals and hopefully you will marry soon.  And, I'm not saying you have to or anything it's just a suggestion, if you really really love him, maybe, and just maybe, you should rethink your decision?  I don;t mean that disrespectfully in any way, I just think maybe you should consider it.  I know thats how you were raised, but you and your parents are 3 different people.  They think s*x before marriage is wrong.  Do YOU believe that?  After all, your boyfriend is sleeping around with other women and you seem all set for marrying him one day, even though you know the way he's been and that he does not believe this.  Of course, I'm not saying you have to do that, I'm only suggesting it =)  I just have a thing about people making their own decisions, sorry lol.   Good luck!  =)

Answer 4

It sucks to hear but this is not a guy you want to be involved with. If he can't be loyal and not cheat on you or if he cannot respect you and wait until marriage then you need to leave ASAP. He is emotionally blackmailing you.. AKA abuse. "Have s*x with me or I'll sleep around" is an ultimatum and those should never be involved in a relationship. GET OUT FAST!

Answer 5

If he loves you, he wouldnt sleep around just because you wont do it with him. Trust me, when you sleep with him, its over. He could have done other things on his own to curb his sexual desires and it is not an excuse to sleep around outside.

Answer 6

He does not respect you...And why are you staying with someone who has told you that he is sleeping around? If he did respect you then he would wait for you...Dont let him talk you into something that you are not ready for...

Answer 7

Quit being naive.  If he can't just not have s*x, then why do you want him?  He has told you what he is, he isn't going to change because you require monogamy, oh wait,... you don't require it, because you are still with him and he's still having s*x.

Answer 8

dump him. if he loves you he will wait and respect you values. and he obviously isnt doing that.

Answer 9

he sounds like a phony!!!

Answer 10

dump him.  you're showing your age by thinking that he's a "caring guy"...

money does not equal happiness...  

Answer 11

Our you totaly crazy girl,this guys sleeping aound he could have hiv for all you no and the idea for keeping yourself for marriage,is good get a man with the same values that will be real love but  this guy will break ur heart and not care,married or not  

Answer 12

Tell him that you're ready, and when you get him down to nothing, grab his balls and clench them in your fist, shaking them up and down proclaiming to him, "If these couldn't have the decency to wait until I was ready for them, I will keep them until they can!" Then take a knife and castrate him, phone for a hospital and leave him bleeding on the ground. Take the balls and mount them on your wall as a trophy from your hunt.

Answer 13

You obviously really like this guy but, he doesn't sound worth it. Are you really okay being with a guy who doesn't respect your understandable feelings on this issue? As long as he realizes he's not going to get what he wants from you, he's gonna keep cheating and/or maybe even leave you. You need to find someone who respects your understandable values. Love or like can cause people to stay with people they shouldn't be with. Sometimes you don't think straight. You can't really be okay with all of this, come on! Find yourself someone who is going to respect you.  

Answer 14

if he is sleeping around then how the h**l can he be the man of your dreams are u willing to give yourself to someone who doesn't respect you enough to wait and not be with anyone else it doesnt matter what he has done for you which is not alot if he cant seem to keep it in his pants.  Don't sell yourself short if he is sleeping around now and you know about it things are not likely to change when you do give it up so DONT