What to do with them? There are always people trying to come in your way (obstacle to progress)?

Question

I am talking about the people who are constantly trying to earn a reaction from you and then make big fuzz about it.

What do you do with them? I mean what is your approach, not what is an idealistic approach.

Answer 1

I generally start by trying to reason with them.

If that fails, then I make sure to watch for opportunities to allow them to show everyone exactly what they are doing.

Worst case - I knock their teeth out.  (Not idealistic, but definitely very effective).

Answer 2

Listen to hogfanbk!

Answer 3

Take control by not giving them a reaction, or giving them a reaction that they don't expect, which puts you in control of the encounter. I learned this while working security in a prison for 6 yrs. and it really works. When people get a different response than they were expecting it puts them on the defensive trying to figure out where you are coming from, thus, you have taken control from them and you're making them react. Hope this helps, although I didn't use a specific scenario.

Answer 4

Have you ever been to a county fair? They usually have a game on the midway where they have ducks going around a track. You get an airgun and try and shoot the ducks down. That's a metaphor for life. Anyone who tries to rise above the crowd will gather a lot of people who are trying to shoot them down, metaphorically speaking. Continue to strive to reach your goal and don't let what others have to say bother you. Follow you instincts and your heart. Let the rest go.

Answer 5

laugh! make a polite light (not revengeful) joke about it to them. Perhaps as to tell them* to relax (an offense; that can sometimes prevent them from coming back at you again).

Depends on the situation somewhat.

Answer 6

I know who you mean! the people trying to push your buttons so to speak and either make you look bad etc. or the ones who are always trying to bring you down by attempting to lower your self esteem any way they can. just trying to convince you that you can't do especially what you are striving and working so hard to accomplish. my approach is this; i have finally learned that those people are just trying to bring me down or just jealous. so i surround myself only with supportive people and i push out all negative thoughts that may try to get in once in a while. finally, i no longer allow those people to be around me!

Answer 7

ignore idiots,laugh in their face. read " The Four Agreements" it is a great really short book there is even a pocket sized version, one of the agreements is to refuse poison from others- meaning their negativity.

your negative/unhappy response is a reward to miserable people.