What to do with this girl at work?

Question

this girl at work keeps bugging me. recently I found out that she was a L*****n. I'm not a homphobe or anything i just feel really freaked out right now because I dunno what to do and I really dont have any interest at her. she's kinda have a higher position than me.

-she touched my upper arm before when she told me to do something. I let it go but i findd it really weird.

-she was very mean to me in the beginning but now she's acting really sweet and nice

-she jokes around with me a lot

-she once told me that I looked like a guy she went to school with before (i dunno why she said that at all)

-she showed me a pornographic picture with the 2 girls having s*x.i dunno why she showed it to me. she thought it was funny but it was not for me. I felt really uncomfortable.

-i told her that i'm gonna give my two weeks notice soon and she always confronts me asking me why. she also said that she's disappointed in me.

she's a lvn and im a cna.

Answer 1

I don't really think that she is doing anything wrong to you.  Maybe you might want to tell her that you're straight and you would like her to keep her sexuality to herself.

Answer 2

As soon as she showed you that picture she crossed over the line of harassment, if not before. If she is really bothering you tell her you will turn her in, if she doesn't stop then turn her in.

Answer 3

Sounds like she likes you to me. Maybe she goes both ways and wants you to join a 3 some. Talk to her first and see where she was going with this and if you don't get anywhere go to your supervisor.

Answer 4

There's nothing wrong with the list that you just stated, except for that pornographic picture. Come on, heaps of people are touchy, or friendly like that. If you imagine those things coming from a guy or straight girl, you probably wouldn't think much about it. I bet people do that all the time to you. Being L*****n doesn't have anything to do with it.

If you have told her that you're straight, then she knows that she can't get you. She's probably just a friendly person. Just shrug it off; nothing will happen. =]

Think of it this way. There's a new guy at your work, he's really cute. You think you have a chance with him. A week later, you find out he's g*y. So now you know that a relationship with you two will never work out, since you both prefer different types of people. But, you'd probably still be friendly to him. It's the exact same situation. Just be yourself. =]

Answer 5

i think u just try to avoid  her as much as possible. i think its your right to not to be with anyone whom you don't like. or you can just say her that what you don't like her doing. i think a  straight talk can avoid lot of problems. i think she will understand you. go to her and speak and let her know what you like and what not.

Answer 6

Honestly, I don't think that anything she does aside from showing you the picture says anything about how she feels about you. Some people communicate by touching especially if they think they are at a friend level where they feel they can do that. Honestly, I've reported someone for sexual harassment and it was for none of those reasons. It was for inappropriate comments, inappropriate touching, and suggestions. Not for touching my arm or saying I looked like someone they know.

Answer 7

Sexual harassment.  Tell her you are going to turn her in if she continues.

Answer 8

Is she your manager or just a higher-ranking coworker?  The picture sounds highly inappropriate; the rest is less clear.  The confrontation about your leaving may just be her doing a poor job of expressing her wish that you'd stay.  You don't have to tell anyone your reasons for leaving; you can just tell her your reasons are personal and you don't want to continue the conversation.

If this woman does more stuff that makes you uncomfortable, make sure to (firmly) let her know how you feel and ask her to stop. Some people are more touchy-feely than others, and I can see nurses getting that way after dealing with patients, but she should stop touching you if you let her know you don't like to be touched.  If it's possible she's just cluelessly awkwardly hitting on you, it's nicer but not necessary to let her know it's unwelcome before starting an HR process.  Write down what happened and what you said; file a complaint with HR or her manager if it seems complaint-worthy.    Even though you're leaving this place, you shouldn't have to tolerate harassing behavior and she (or her HR dept) needs to learn that she's crossing a line.

Answer 9

Report her to your Human Resources Department.  What she's doing is sexual harassment.  She's touching you inappropriately, she's showing you p**n.  If you want to keep your job report her, because quite possibly, if she's doing it to you she may be doing it to others too.

Answer 10

May be she is straight and her idea of frndship is kinda weird.....lol...However I think she crossed the line by showing u p**n pics. Avoid her

Answer 11

yup its sexual harassment....she should not have shown youthe picture. Tell her to please stop because it makes you uncomfortable and if she doesn't then turn her in.

No one should have to work in an uncomfortable situation.