What to do with this kid he is 17 and just making me mad

Question

i just wrote on how he took off the weekend and lied why he didn't make it to work . well, people say let him grow, i let him go out to help a friend . he has school in the morning. i said to be back no later then two hours. its after 11pm. i called him, he now coming home. i am so mad. he lied to me earlier, i made him do allot of chores .. so i let him go help a friend.now he says he left at 9 and it was 2hours. i told him he needs to be in bed about 10 for school. i cant win. what ever i say he tries to change what was said. i cant take the car he pays for it. if i do he finds ways out, he works he meets friends or will lie he is there. i want to drop his ell phone . he is going to be 18in 8 months and he thinks he can break all the rules until then. he is usually good what the heck i think its the guys he is with.what would you do in this situation.

Answer 1

i think u should trust him more, he's seventeen he's not a small kid anymore.. give him a break, show him that u trust him... that way he'll feel more responsible..good luck anyway

Answer 2

re: what would you do in this situation.

...........at 17, it's probably too late but........

I'd google: parenting classes or parenting skills

to see if there is some way you can undo the bad parenting the kid has been given!

Answer 3

I think giving him chores and getting mad makes him do these things more. Rather, you should concentrate on the things he does right and thank him for it. Also, try talking to him in a calm manner and explain yourself and why you need him to those certain things. Also, you can even compromise. If he comes home on time for the whole week, that Saturday he can stay out a little more late.  

Answer 4

I don't know what to tell you short of the fact that 10 p.m. is early for a 17 year old to go to bed sometimes.  My kids could go to bed anytime before 11:30 when they were 17, and lots of times, they were in bed at 9... depending upon how tired they were.

Maybe you could let your son know he needs to call you if he's going to be late getting home, and that you want to know an approximate time because you tend to get worried and stressed out otherwise.

I don't think it's worth getting all bent out of shape over this, unless he is coming home in the wee hours of the morning.  I hope you can work something out with your son, and that he will take your feelings into consideration by calling you in the future.

take care and de-stress.

Answer 5

my dad always just took 30min off the time in which i was normally allowed to be out each time i was late unless i had a lagit excuse like i got a flat one time on the way home. as for the car it can't be in his name because he's under 18 cause legally all he can buy is the bare nacesities and a car is not one so it must be in your name which means its your car legally so take the keys and say tough luck follow the rules and if he starts sneeking off with a spare key take out the battery and put it in your room then he can't start it. you can't really stop him from going out you can just make it so it's so much of a pain that its just not worth it to break the rules anymore because he has nothing but bread and water for food and one days worth of clothes