What to give a family who just lost a child....

Question

Someone on my husband's side of the family had a 3month old baby boy die of heart disease at day care yesterday and I don't know what to get them. You know, there is the traditional flowers, but they are going to get flowers from everyone! I want it to be something more unique. My husband and I are going in on a gift with his parents. Anyone have any ideas?

Answer 1

a card..your love..your support..prayers

Answer 2

you can buy the baby a star with her name.  without frame 75   with a frame(really nice enclosed with glass 165.   i bought one for our family.  it is really nice. a lot of movie stars get them .  it is legal and is documented in the national astronomical book of stars.  

internationalstarregistry.com  

i am sorry for your loss and their loss.  it is very sad.  

Answer 3

Some people give fruit baskets or something along those lines.  Chocolates, flowers (like you said), and a sympathy card are traditionally whats given.  If you have a lot of picture of the child you could make them a scrapbook in memory of him.  Dont rush though, you want to make it as nice as you can.  If they need help around the house, like mowing the lawn or something, then they would be grateful to be helped there.

Answer 4

How about donating money to one of their favorite charity in their son's name.

Answer 5

This is very, very sad.  You of course need to give them a card with a heartfelt message telling them to let you know if you need anything at all.  They need your support and love more than they need flowers.  They need food, babysitters for any other children they have and overall attention and care.

As for a present, get them a memorial plaque.  Do you have pictures of this child?  If so, find one that is special to your family and take it to a shop that can emboss the picture on a plaque.  Have this child's name engraved and a special saying underneath like 'Forever your angel'.

This is a plaque they can hang on their wall and continually remember him by.  It is something more solid than flowers.  I always thought flowers were the wrong way to go in times of death, as flowers just die and remind people (at least me) why they are hurting to begin with.

I would present this plaque to them at the reception after the funeral.  Don't make a big to-do about it, just simply hand it to the mother or father, or both and let them know you want to help.  

Don't forget them after this.  Make them dinner.  A simple lasagna and rolls.  Something they can use for leftovers.  Then next week perhaps a casserole.  Drop in just to say hello.  Offer to help clean house if they need it.  These little actions speak volumes of your character.

Good luck and I am so sorry to hear about this.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry that the daycare killed your nephew. I suggest you get them flowers but more importantly you need to be there for them. Offer to run errands for them, cook some food for them, etc.

Answer 7

no gift can ease the pain they are suffering but be there for them and do some of the things that need to be done and many never think of