What to say in delicate moments...?

Question

In an email, an acquaintance just mentioned that her father is having heart surgery this week. Naturally, I want to reply with my condolences and best wishes. And I don’t know if she is religious or not, so I can’t say “I’ll have your father in my prayers” or anything like that. Some people seem naturally gifted at just finding the right words in these moments. But often I find myself struggling to find the right words to send in reply. Are there any good resources online or elsewhere that one can use when seeking to find the right words in delicate moments like this?

Answer 1

First off, if YOU are religious, there's nothing wrong with saying that her father is in your prayers.  

Second, you just say what is in your heart.  If you are a genuinely nice person, no matter what, she will appreciate the gesture.

If you try to copy a line off some web page, you will look fake and insincere - and that is the absolute worst insult.  So be yourself and say what you really feel.

Answer 2

I'm not religious, so I don't think your acquaintance will be offended.  You might want to say,  " You and your father will be in my thoughts as he goes through his surgery.  I will be hoping that everything goes as planned."

Answer 3

Just a few kind words for the father will do. You could use this one, I hope everything turns out well for your father.

Answer 4

First of all don't offer "condolences" to her, that is only if her father passes away. You could just tell her that you will be thinking good thoughts and sending them her way. And as far as her being religious or not, telling her that you will pray for her father is not an insult. If you are a Christian, then that is the best thing you can do. Tell her you hope all will go well and you'll be thinking about her. As an acquaintance, that is really all you need to say to her.

Answer 5

I am not religious, but I never mind when people tell me they're praying for me.  I just say thank you, because I respect their beliefs as being as valid to them as mine are to me.  

As a non religious person I could not tell somebody that I will be praying for them.  I would talk to my friend sincerely and tell her that I hope her father's surgery goes well, I'll be thinking about him and sending lots of positive energy his way.  I'd also call my friend and check up after the surgery.

Answer 6

I wish your father a speedy recovery. Hope he gets well soon.

Answer 7

Well you don't need to be good with words.. all you have  to show is compassion in such moments and encouragement.. so instead of saying ''I 'll have your father in my prayers.. you can say...'' I really hope he will get better soon I keep fingers crossed.. if you feel down and need someone to chat with online, let me know...'' that would be good enough it shows that you care .. that's all that's needed !

Answer 8

Say this "I hope your father has a full and complete recovery and will be up and around soon.  My thoughts are with you and your family."

Answer 9

"Naturally, I want to reply with my condolences and best wishes."

You just said it. :)

"My condolences and best wishes." Maybe throw in a "for your father," if you want, but you said it already. Why do you think your words aren't "good" enough?