What to say to someone on their child's death aniversary?

Question

It has been a year since my close friend's 5 year old daughter died in a car accident. I want to express my sadness and support for her in a letter, need to find the words.

Answer 1

maybe she wants to remember her daughter in a happy way, not be reminded of the constant pain she feels because her child was taken from her. sorry, but if i was her, i really wouldnt appreciate a letter from someone telling me how sad it is my daughter is dead - i wouldnt need to read that, id know how sad it is as id have to live with that sadness every day. i think its inappropriate. sorry.

Answer 2

I think this is a sweet idea. My brother-in-law died 3 years ago and I always avoided the subject with MIL. Until one day something came up and I started talking about him, I apologized and said I'm sure she doesn't want to be reminded. Her response is "I never stop thinking about it" and why do people avoid talking about him. So we went on for an hour about how silly he looked when he bleached his hair!

Send a nice card, write in it about how you are thinking about her, miss her and something sweet about her little girl. Don't mention oh she will be 6 this year or anything like that, maybe I saw this rose and remembered how much _____ loved roses.

Best of luck. Remember **hug** is as good as the real thing when you cant have the real one.

Answer 3

just send her a big arrangment of flowers its what people do to my family on the anniversary of my brothers death

Answer 4

just say that u love her and tell her to never forget that.

dont write a letter, say it face to face and after u say that hug her, she will understand. and then ask her if she wants to see a movie, if she says yes, try to pick a chick flick, a romantic comedy, or sisterhood of the traveling pants 2, something about friendship, if she says no, say i understand and ask her if there is anything i can do

hope that helps

♥ Bella ♥

Answer 5

I would make it short and sweet. You don't have to remind her of why you are sending the card she is well aware of the date. I would just send a "Thinking of You" card and write something simple like "You know I am always here if you need me".

Answer 6

for the people i know that have had children pass away, they appreciate it when people share happy memories of the child. i say something as simple as a thinking of you card is okay. i have a friend who's mother passed away on christmas eve and i always take out the time to call her and let her know that i'm thinking about her and she appreciates the support. most people appreciate you remembering dates that are important to them.

Answer 7

my daughters 10th birthday and death anniversary are coming up she died the same day she was born .

as a mom who has lost a child it may be better to not mention it. let her mention it. i know you want to support her and feel for her but  as time passes its easier to not talk about what happened  and having to relive all the pain around the death

im not trying to be mean but i know  i dislike talking about my daughter it hurts to much even now

Answer 8

Just be there for her send some flower or something like that and simply say thinking of you or I am here or Call if you need to talk or If there is anything I can do.

Please don't force yourself on her I now that sounds cold but some people like to mourn alone.Don't say you understand how she feels or I know it hurts.That sounds cold but those are the last thing someone that just lost a baby wants to hear