What to wear for my boyfriend brother's wedding?

Question

My bf brother is getting married in November in Indiana in a semi formal ceremony (not black tie but cocktail) around 7 pm. I already know his family (mom, dad, brother, sis) but have yet to meet the rest of the family. His family is very conservative and I am.. well not, lol. I want to establish who I am to them without shocking them. I dont wanna pretend that I am someone that I am not but I dont wanna make anybody uncomfortable.

I got a dress but my mom thinks because of my body type might look too... va-va-boom. I think that if i am not showing b***s and lots of leg that constitute modest. I think the dress is s**y in a non-S****y way

I love him and I know his family will be my family some day, so shouldnt I just be myself? My boyfriend saw a pic online of the dress and loved it but i cant get my mom's comment off my head. What do you guys think?

Here's a link of the dress

http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=313643&CategoryID=221

Answer 1

I think it's gorgeous - it looks really sophisticated! If it would make your mom feel better, maybe you could get a simple pashmina wrap to wear in the church, so your shoulders are covered (not because I think the dress is too revealing, but because some people get stuck on covering up in church). Then you can take it off for the reception.

If you're close to your boyfriend's mom, maybe you could send her the picture of the dress, and ask if it would be appropriate for the wedding: "Hi Mrs. Smith, I'm not sure what to wear to Bill and Susan's wedding. Do you think this dress would be formal enough? Thanks!"

Answer 2

The dress is beautiful.  If I were you, I would pair it with a modest jacket or wrap because it could be chilly and it will give it a more conservative look for a first impression.  If you get hot, you can take it off and nobody will think of you differently because the first impression was conservative.  Something like this may look great without compromising your style:

Answer 3

I don't think it's S****y, but I don't think it's wedding material either...try for something more conservative. You can be yourself, the dress needs to be appropriate however...

(dressing well doesn't mean you have to be someone else, it means you have respect for not only your body, but the function you're wearing it for...)

Answer 4

I think the dress is perfectly classy and great for a wedding.  The dress is a very conservative lenght and the neckline is not too racy at all.

This is a perfect example of a woman looking s**y with out looking S****y.  Wear it, I'm sure you will look beautiful.

Answer 5

Definitely shows that you're not conservative, but is quite classy. If you're worried get a wrap and wear opaque tights. If it's in a church you'll want a wrap anyhow.

I'd say the fact that your boyfriend approves is a good sign.

Answer 6

Wear something - which is noticed by every one and appreciated by your boyfriend

Answer 7

i think its fine, but if their conservative then maybe you should wear lik a pasmina over it to show a little respect to their consevative or something like that

Answer 8

I think the dress is gorgeous, although, it will depend on your size and shape etc, as to whether it quite raunchy when you where it, as it can look completely different on different people.  Just as someone suggested, why don't you where a shawl over your shoulders during the ceremony and they take it off at the reception.  

I believe you should be yourself at all times and as long as your boyfriend is happy with it, why should you worry about what your mum who is most likely 2 or 3 decades older has to say!

Answer 9

The dress is very nice.

If you can't be yourself around them, no point in making them family in the future.

Answer 10

Great dress, wear it.

Always be yourself. Lifes way too short to change for other people who don't matter.

Answer 11

Well you should ask your boyfriend what his sister's wearing so you can get an idea what you could wear to the wedding as well. Its only a wedding,  you don't have to go out their showing people who you are and stuff. No one cares!.

By the way that's a very beautiful dress. I think it looks really good on the model. If your body type is like the model wearing the dress than you would look very fab!

Answer 12

If they are conservative, ...IT IS A WHOLE LOT TIGHT!!!!  Your mom is right.  If you wnat to be completly comfortable aroung his family, for this one time, wear something a bit less clinging tot he body so you are not self conscious the entire time...You will hate yourself for not doing it because you woon't enjoy yourself as much.  

I was in the same predicament but it was my fiance's family who was conservative.. (him immediate family)!!!  SO what I did was, the first few times, I wore conservative stuff.  When I knew they were gonna be in town I would wear conservative clothes but every other day.  I kinda weaned them into it, ...you know? SO my suggesetion for you it to save that dress for a night out on the town to a fancy restaurant where your b/f would love to watch you in it, for now (if you bought it already)  and wear a more conservative dress so that YOU can have a peace of mind and much more comfort around the rest of his family.  

Although his immediate family already accepts you as you are there is no need to send the rest of them a little shock statement that you are who you are and that's who you're gonna be.  Tone it down for his family's sake...AND HAVE FUN!!!!!

Answer 13

The dress looks great... I think it would be perfect for the wedding, and no, it's not over s**y...

Wear it if you feel comfortable in it, at least you know your boyfriend will love it. Play it down, not too heavy on the makeup or jewellery and you will look great.

Have fun.

Answer 14

Omg I love it.

I'm going to a wedding in august and need to find something to wear!

I think you should totally wear it. It's appropriate, cute, and could be dressed up or down.

=]

Hope I helped

Answer 15

I don't see anything wrong with the dress at all. I think it would be perfect. Is it available in any other colors? If not, it's still an excellent choice.

Answer 16

I dont think its S****y at all!!

its nice and i think will suit the occasion nicely.

Answer 17

The wedding is not yours - it is his brothers. Therefore you must strive not to take anything from his and his wife's day. The wedding is a day NOT to establish who you are, but to show how you can fit in and support the family. The dress looks acceptable depending on how you wear it, you can be enticing w/o attracting everyone's eye. Talk to your bf, one of the easier ways to accomplish what you want is if your bf forwards the link to his brother and "wife to be" and they OK the dress. Then u can tell mom they ok'd it.

Answer 18

I believe the dress is very classy and elegant, but yet has a little bit of a spark. It does stand out a bit, being the fact that it is cobolt blue, and you have to remember that this is the Bride's day, and you don't want to go all out and show-her-up, so be modest and think about the Bride also. But I don't think that it is AT ALL showing up the Bride except in maybe color. The one thing I am worried about though is the way the dress fits. It could be a little too tight. But the dress i saw comes in black also. Black is for funerals so don't go with another color. But i think if you dress it down a bit with flats and just a little jewelry it will be totally fine. And if that's you, then go with it. But if you feel like you want to change the dress, then go with something that is a fun color, but has a different fit. Obviously you like things that are fun. So maybe go with something not so form fitting but maybe a pink, or a more suttle blue, or an orange even. Just stay away from White that is the Bride's color. I hope that helps you!

Answer 19

dats a nice dress i &heart; it yea nice elegant just the rite dress 4 a wedding nice good job !!! macys rocks!!

Answer 20

okay i am a designer and i love that dress! I seriousy think you should go with the blue one because your going to a wedding not a funiral. Honey please just buy the blue one right away ^^ your gonna look more prettier then the bride haha.

Answer 21

i like that dress...

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Answer 22

I like the dress, and did not think it was S****y at all. (don't know if blue would be the best color, but I liked the blue)