What to write in card to bereaved elderly friends?

Question

My friends' daughter lost her battle with cancer today. She was in her early 40s - they are in their 70s. They live far away from me so I cant go to the funeral but I want to send them a card to offer my sympathy. I always find writing messages on sympathy cards very difficult but I want to have something more personal than the message printed in the card. Can you help me with a few words that will let them know that I am thinking of them. I dont want it to sound patronising with the usual 'time will heal' as I dont believe it will for them. What would you say in this circumstance.

Answer 1

Just something simple like "Assuring you of my thoughts at this sad time"

Answer 2

Dear John & Mary,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Sincerely,

Jane

Sometimes less is more.  Maybe the prayer comment isn't appropriate, tailor it to their specifics.  Do you have a pleasant recollection of the person who passed?  If so something to the effect of;  "I will always remember how Ann's smile lit up a room." may be nice to add.  

Answer 3

I wish I could be with you in this difficult time, to give you my strength and my support. I love you, and you can always count on me.

Answer 4

I agree with your thoughts.  It is very hard for parents to lose a child.  

You both are such kind, caring and supportive parents who I am sure (daughter's name) felt proud and fortunate to have.  It is my hope that you and your family find comfort in the memories of the special moments spent together.  I only wish that I could be with you.  I extend my sympathy in  (daughter's name)  passing and know that (with God's company) she (too) is smiling in peace upon all of you.

Thinking of you with sympathy,

or

Holding you close, with loving thoughts and sympathy,

Answer 5

My thoughts are with you at this sad and difficult time. With Love.........

Answer 6

It is not the natural order of things. The child should outlive the parent. I will not pretend to know how you feel, but if time does truly

heal, I wish it for you.

Answer 7

I still miss those I loved who are no longer with me but I find I am grateful for having loved them. The gratitude has finally conquered the loss.

Rita Mae Brown

Answer 8

I am very sorry for your loss. Even though I can't be with you through this time of bareavement, just know that my prayers and thought are with you. Your daughter will truly be missed by many. If there is anything I can do, don't hesitate to call. God Bless.

Answer 9

I am really deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter, my heart goes out to both of you at this sad time in your life,my heart is with both of you at this moment.