What tunrs people off crossdressers?

Question

i know some people love them, others hate them...

Answer 1

What turns people of us ?  

Ask my ex.

But seriously, I think it's about our attitudes being a little screwed up and out ideas of "what women are really like" can be a little out of the drop zone too. There's a lot of crossdressers out there who, while normal in most respects, insist that they, and otheres refer to thier male genitals as thier clitty, demand to be called by unsuitably feminine names and reall just dont "get it" when it comes to being femminine. There's nothing attractive abut a guy trying too hard to be a girl, too much makeup, insanley frilly clothes, full lingerie set's at all times, mini skirt and stockings.... It's all taking it just that bit too far, and that scares people off.

I have trousers, in a female cut, I have shoes that are not six inch heels, I have knickers (not 'panties') I have clothes that are just clothes, not s**t outfits or prostitute costumes. I used to do all that other stuff, but I have been told, and I realise it;s true, that it's a bit too much, it's kinda creepy. Sure, dress to kill if youre gong out, or you just wnjoy the look, but the rest of the time, try normal clothes, less makeup, forget trying to do the voice, stop trying so hard to be girly.

Women don't sit abround discussing thier knickers or makeup or hair styles, tha discuss the news, the inflation rate and the price of school dinners.

Upshot is, trying too hard to be too femminine is the turn off.

Answer 2

Stubble.

Answer 3

Because most of them don't look good. A lot look like blokes trying to be women but failing. Occasionally I've seen an attractive one but not often.

Answer 4

Some people are offended when traditional gender roles are broken. When this happens, it can mean a lot of things. The person may not know how to act around a cross dresser because they are confused as to whether to treat them as a male or female. It may be simply that they fear what they don't understand because they have never had those feelings themselves. It brings up questions for them they might not be comfortable answering. It also depends on personal preference. My best male g*y friend is not attracted to cross dressers because he likes very masculine men. I have been with a transvestite before and I was not attracted to them when they were cross dressed because it didn't fall into my previous conceptions about sexuality. I learned to like it but it took time. In conclusion, I think it all depends on the person's personal motivations.  

Answer 5

The fundamental dishonesty in it all.

Cross dressers are basically con-artists; they go to great lengths to try to deceive others.

Not that I have a problem with lies and liars - I don't. This is a dishonest world, and the biggest lie anybody can ever tell is that they never lie. But the thing with cross dressers is that they effectively lie in advance of the question. It's one thing to be told a lie in response to a question - that I can happily live with because none of us has some God-given right to the truth, especially on demand. But to have to put up with lies which are not invited is just bad.

The grotesque nature of this particular lie makes it all the more disgusting, in my own personal view, of course.

It all seems too sordid to me.

Answer 6

It's just a preference...people can't really decide what they like and what they don't. I personally find cross dressers very cute but not really attractive.

Answer 7

It would have to be their ***** attitude when they "dress up" to become the spoiled "princesses" they want to become.

Answer 8

it all begins in the psyche, I believe the answer lies in their early upbringing, and they have a good sense of humor and aren't intimidated by social values. Besides, panty hose is supposed to keep you warmer in cold weather.so maybe the rest of the ensemble would do something. Look at the romans, they wore togas which is like a dress and the scotsman with a kilt( do they wear knickers under there?),but to be honest, it is hard for a guy to see a guy in gal attire.

Answer 9

When they appear too obvious and make themselves look ridiculous.

Answer 10

A lot of it to start with I think is that people are faced with something that is 'non' standard - a man dressed as a woman.  A lot of men feel insecure & I suppose also that their masculinity is being put under the microscope where as a lot of women feel plain uncomfortable & creeped out.

Another thing is that a large proportion of cross dressers go way to over the top with what they're doing.

My much beloved told me within the first couple of hours that he was a cross dresser & I thought something along the lines of 'so what? a man who sometimes wears womens clothing - I can handle that having worked in the theatre in the past'.  

What I wasn't prepared for is that his female persona has e-mail accounts, post, a telephone, numerous accounts on forums, membership to things etc etc etc  Sometimes I find this a real struggle to cope with, other times I don't & my much beloved is well aware of this.

What a large amount of cross dressers don't seem to understand also is that less is more - in clothing & make-up.  I bit my tongue at first as I didn't want to offend him with a few home truths - but eventually I just had to tell him (but gently) as it was part making me cringe & part freaking me out.  

Credit to him, he's taken my comments on board as he realised that the last thing I wanted to do was hurt him, I only wanted to help & that if he was going to go out 'dressed' (which he did last weekend for the first time in 24 years, I was so proud of him!) he'd need to tone it down otherwise there could well be a whole heap of nasty trouble & that is the last thing we wanted or needed.

Women don't wear 6" high heels & a maids costume to do the washing up, or a p***y pelmet instead of a skirt so everytime they bend down they flash their knickers to clean the bathroom, we don't all wear matching underwear - just items the same colour will do etc. A lot of men that cross dress seem to think we do, so in their eyes try to emulate this.

Another thing that seems to be a trend amongst cross dressers is their use of words & terminology that make me cringe & feel uncomfortable as a female, & once again I mentioned this to me dearly beloved & after some thinking & assessing I suppose he started to say that he saw what I meant & hadn't realised it as no one had pointed it out to him in the past.

The list could go on, but I know you don't have all night.  It's a bit like the g*y's & lesbians that reinforce their homosexuality at every given moment instead of geting on with their lives without publicising the fact, as being homosexual isn't all there is to them.  For example the overtly camp homosexuals get a lot more of a negative reaction than those that get on with life & being homosexual isn't their prime concern.

If cross dressers wanted to live their lives being 'out' about it, look around, do your research, work with what's fact instead of what you imagine women to be like - if this was done & cross dressers blended in to society more instead of basically shouted out that they were a cross dresser (inappropriate clothing/make-up, hairy legs, chest hair comming out of their cleveage etc) then there MIGHT be a lot less negative reaction from the general public at large.

Answer 11

Adams apples

Answer 12

it's freakish. i was in the airport and there was a man wearing a white blouse, black mini skirt, opaque tights (very hairy legs) and high heels. he had a white beard!! like i said, it's freakish.