What was i thinking!!! now what do i do??

Question

i am married three kids and my husband is so lazy can't keep a job. when he gets a job it is good for a bit then he finds reasons to get fired or does not want to go in. well my problem was during the turmoil of financial strain we turned to our neighbors for some help and they did. well one thing led to another and i began having this affair with the neighbor right under both families noses. what was one time turn into i could not get enough of him. this went on for 5 years and all of a sudden we lost our home to foreclosure. we moved and i still had my part time job where my neighbors let me stay with them. all of a sudden i go to find out the neighbor is also getting a piece from sister in law. i am torn what to do. should i tell his wife about him and my sister in-law. or the whole situation??

Answer 1

Back out of the picture.

You made a bad choice, fix your situation. Forget the man.

No need to be involved. Get new place, new job. Get divorced if you want. But don't create more drama.

Be a grown up and fix your own mess. Stay out of other's messes.

Answer 2

OML!  This is messed up!  How can you even consider telling his wife about the SIL but not about the two of you???  Isn't that the pot calling the kettle black!?  If you're going to open your mouth about one wrong, you should tell all!  Besides, if you tell on them, the tables will turn and YOU will pay, too!  I honestly don't see how you could live with them, knowing what you're doing to their family, yet still be able to see that it's wrong for him to be cheating on you!  HELLO!  Why is it ok for him to cheat on his wife with you, but not ok for him to cheat with your SIL on you?  You need to move out, leave that woman's husband alone, and find a SINGLE man to make you happy!  We all deserve love, but we don't deserve to be cheated on!

If your hubby was so lazy and worthless, you should've left him!  It's Biblical that a husband that can't provide for his family is less than worthless.  Even though he couldn't keep a job and was lazy, he still didn't deserve to be cheated on.  Two wrongs don't make a right!  

One of the 10 Commandments is Thou shalt not commit adultery.  It doesn't go on to say...unless your husband is worthless, lazy and unemployed, and you lose your house because he won't work.  It says DON'T DO IT!  

You're definitely in my prayers, but my heart goes out to that wife!  God bless you...he really needs to!

Answer 3

OMG!!   A back stabber user   and then when you find out your not the only one getting his wifes time and s*x, you want to cause trouble!

You and he are both sick.  You deserve what you get.

Answer 4

what are you? the pot calling the kettle black!!

you just sound jealous that the neighbour has a choice of 3!

Bitter, are you?

Answer 5

You sound bitter over a man you can't control. Plain and simple. Whatever you do the sister-in-law probably knows about you so your screwed either way. So, do what you please.

Good Luck!  LOL!

Answer 6

Is this even a real question?  If so, you are so messed up and need some serious help.

Answer 7

you better keep your mouth shut before you put yourself on blast...its called karma what goes around comes around...you did something hurtful and it came back to you and now your hurt...dont turn it into something bigger than it already is...end this now!  

Answer 8

where the h**l do you get the right to squeel on him now because your not the only meatwing he is flapping?

get a grip on yourself.. this was YOUR decision.. havent you done enough already?

Answer 9

Move out of your neighbors if you're still there and move on. Are you still married to your lazy husband? Start banging him or divorce him.

Answer 10

KARMA!!!!!

OK DONT SAY ANYTHING IF YOU DONT WANT TO GET IN TROUBLE...

IF YOU DONT MIND SPILL THE WHOLE ENCHILADA AND SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES....

IT WASNT YOUR FAULT BLAME IT ON YOU HUSBAND HE WASNT THERE AND HE WAS BEING A WEENIE SO YEAH...

GOOD LUCK =]

Answer 11

come clean. and tell her about the sister-in-law also  

Answer 12

oh where is jerry springer on this  

Answer 13

The only thing that was getting helped is your neighbor getting some free dumb snatch. You lost your home so the neighbor wasn't helping that much. My word and now because it has been confirmed that all he was doing is using you, you want to make the wife suffer you are a piece of work. It wont do no good what's done is done you got used and nothing will change that next time use your head. (Misery loves Company) break the cycle.

Answer 14

Wait... so you're trash and want to tell the wife of Mr. Trash that he is not only trashy but tacky?

Good luck with that one...

Answer 15

You shouldn't have done it in the first place, but now that you want to come clean, you should remember to tell your husband too.

Answer 16

nice job

Answer 17

Wow. I would take them all on Jerry Springer and iron it out.  

Answer 18

If you tell about the sister in law and not you, you are doing it just to get even.  Have some self respect and end the affair.  Just remove yourself from the situation quietly.  You have nothing to gain here.  Only losses.

Answer 19

I must say I love how you started this post ragging on your husband he may not keep a job but it seems he is the only one who can keep his privates in his pants. Take credit for your own mistakes look in the mirror and point your finger for once.

Answer 20

So the guy is willing to share the pickle.  Don't you think he should be thanked for his help and the fun you had?  If one women was keeping several men happy would she be bad?  No double standard here please!!!  Live and let live, life is short, take enjoyment when available and relish the happy times memories.  

Answer 21

be honest and do whats right its not fair playing with peoples lives.

Answer 22

Well if you are going to tell his wife about him cheating on her with your sister in law, you might as well tell her about him having an affair with you. Making the sister in law look like trash does not make up for what you did.You both messed up big time. And I think you should both come clean. You are hurting alot of people with what you are doing and it is not right. You should go and talk to your husband, tell him what you did and try to solve your problems.  

Answer 23

Keep your mouth & legs closed.