What was the final straw for you to divorce? ?

Question

My husband is deployed right now and partying all the time when he's not working and hanging out in bars. I'm back home with our 3 month old working 2 jobs and hardly talk to him unless he is at work. He doesn't call home and on his days off I don't hear from him hardly at all. We have some other issues within the marriage. But I'm married and take my vows seriously. I don't think he should be partying about every single night when he is married. I have tried talking to him and talking to him some more he rather let me end the marriage then have to stay out of the bars. He tells me I don't love him or care about our marriage at all because I don't want him partying every night. He told me please don't take this wrong but their is no reason why we have to talk 24/7. We don't really even talk only when he is at work. What do you all think about this? I been packing me and the baby some stuff so I can go away for awhile. What can I do I love him but am I supposed to suffer and worry about him all the time and wander why I'm not as important as a beer. He promised me over the weekend he wanted me to buy a web cam so I did he said we talk and cam over the weekend I hardly heard from him. I'm hurt I am really hurt and I cry a lot and there is just so much in our marriage he does that isn't right. I don't really want a divorce but what am I supposed to do? Any adivce would be great thank you.

Answer 1

You just had a baby.  You are very hormonal.  It's your hormones that are making you question what you should do about your marriage.  If you could think more clearly you wouldn't be asking, you would be moving forward with a divorce and starting to find someone who will want to be home with you and your baby, loving you!

Answer 2

My advice is, when you actually have to EXPLAIN to your spouse what being married is supposed to look like, chances are your spouse really was never marriage material to begin with.

That is how I see it.  Men show us their feelings by their actions toward us, women just confuse it with words.

Answer 3

u can tell what a person thinks of u by the way they treat u,and their behavior.any man u have to constantly worry about just isn't worth it.when u marry u should be mature enough to do what most married folks do, he is acting like he is still single.he doesn't seem to be that into marriage.