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What wife reacts like this after finding out about hubby's affair?

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I would like to hear both perspectives (men and women). This woman has been accusing her husband of cheating for many years, even though he never did...until a year ago. Wife set up "traps" such as creating fake profiles on certain social websites (even though she FORBID he enter these same sites or she'd have a S**t fit) as him behind his back just to see if anybody would contact him. If anybody did, she'd go crazy on both of them. Had she ever cheated? A few times he caught evidence that said yes, but nothing enough to prove and of course she denied.

So husband starts feeling extreme guilt over the affair and ends it. Wife finds out AFTER he had ended it already..she tricked him into confessing by telling him she had already talked to this other woman, when that was not true, but she had searched on line and gathered as much info as she could on who she suspected might have something to do with her husband (this other woman happened to fall into her trap on one of these sites wife set up as if it were his). He confesses and wife finds this other woman's phone number and constantly harasses her-it's been months. Affair ended. She knew this (wife did) from the start. She has made him feel utter guilt and he's doing everything in his power to "repair" the marriage (which was broken long ago to begin with). She makes him feel like c**p every single day all day long bringing up this other woman and all kinds of other stuff. He's miserable, yet, he's trying to "prove" whatever it is he's trying to prove to his wife. She goes back and forth between this woman (who never responds to her actions/insults or bothers him at all) and her husband trying to turn each of them against the other. All of a sudden, she's Wife of the Year, when she never before cared to even help around the house. At the same time making him feel like he's done such a wrong to her that he deserves to be treated like a dog. She never once cried, never once said she loved him...she just states that he's not leaving her and that's the end of the story. That she feels utterly sorry for the other woman and for her husband for falling for each other, but that he had obligations to her. She sends their 10 yr old daughter to work with him and tells the little girl to make sure and report back any woman so much as look at him. She did that for a while, but now, she just does her dirty work herself. This other woman and this man work for the same company, so wife makes him take her w/him...and there she goes to work w/him to ensure no contact is made.

Ladies, what do you think of that? Gentlemen, would you stand for being treated in such a way? I thought forgiveness was on both parties...she's done wrong, too..but she doesn't acknowledge that. She doesn't seem to be hurting...well, okay, her pride is hurt, that much is obvious!

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  1. I would say her husband did something really wrong to her for her have turned out this way. Man I know what it's like to be cheated on and lied to. What it's like to have someone you love on sites and doing things online.

    She does not trust him that's obvious but on that note she is in that phase as I call it the calm before the storm. She is just so consumed with what he has done to her it has really taken over her life.

    She might sound nuts even crazy but people can drive you to such things. She will stop once it hits her the damage is done and she can't change all or what he did to her to make her this way.

    By then she will probably leave the marriage.


  2. so you're the mistress?

    stop making him out to be victim, he cheated and nobody forced him to.


  3. He married her, and he was the one that cheated.  A  He knew the type woman she was after being married to her all of these years.  Anything she does to him, he deserves.  I hope the other woman gets what she deserves too!!

    One the other hand, the child should not be involved.  The child has nothing to to with the cheating.

    Just remember that pay back is he!l!!!

  4. Are you the other woman?

    Anyways, it sounds like a sick joke.

    I feel sorry for the husband.  He should file the  divorce on grounds of mental abuse.   Wife got a mental problem.

  5. sounds like you're the woman he had an affair with. i feel no sympathy for cheaters. they get what they deserve. AIDS included

  6. Why is he staying to put up with it? Sounds like she just wants him cause he lets her be the man of anything. Tell him to leave for his sake and their daughters. she doesnt need any of this around her. She needs love not stress shes to young.  

  7. she had every right to act this way, he cheated on her with some w***e.  it doesnt matter if the relationship was over the marriage was not.  i would be pissed to i cant believe she still wants to be with him after this. no wonder she is acting all crazy i think she has every right and if he doesnt like it he can leave.

    ok so you ask our opinion and then you tell us not to judge anyone?!!! why dont you just stay out of their business if you are not the other women! and dont ask a question if you know you wont like the answers!

  8. ooh sorry its terrible tell your friend to wake up .he need to tlk to her en tell to stop but he might be giving her reason to trace him.

  9. why they have to waste their time and money?They have to move on. They only have one chance to live. All that happens because they are too love each other n afraid something bad happen. The bad thing sometime happened.If they forgive each other n back to their normal live, it much more better.Feeling sad and angry for a long time, will lead to unhealthy life.They will get sick easily because bad hormone releases in the body, which is toxin, in turn suffer from cancer and die prematurely.Beware. Live a happy life.

  10. Wacko wife, he should leave her!  

  11. You seem to have a lot of contempt for this woman.  Were you the chick getting screwed on the side?

    Anyway they both sound miserable.  She has trust issues & through her endless attempts to get him to cheat he finally did which basically proved her right & that's what she has always wanted.  To be right.

    And he is just a dickless wonder.  I mean really.  Who is that whipped?  

  12. They are both obviously incredibly insecure.  A secure person would not stalk their partner.  A secure person would not tolerate such aggressive, abusive behavior from their partner.  Insecurity and lack or trust can utterly ruin a relationship.  They both need individual as well as couples counseling in order to have any chance of repairing their relationship.  After counseling, they may discover that they can repair the marriage, or that they need to go their separate ways.  Either way, this is no way to live for either of them.  Insecurity and resentment are eating them both alive.  They either need to seek help, or quit trying, or they will be miserable forever.  Neither party is innocent, and they are both making themselves victims- her because she encourages him to cheat by terrorizing him, and him because he allows her to terrorize him.

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