What would YOU do about this? in pain..?

Question

my boyfriend of 6 yrs keeps walking out when he feels like it.last time he took a 2 month break.he was bored.went partying, and came back skint. we don't live together.we are both 28,still live with our respective parents, saving for a house.he dumped me again a week ago, when i found i was pregnant, and i called his mom and told her so.he was very angry.i call him alot and he just tells me to get lost.i stopped calling and he seemed to be coming around, but then he started up again as soon as i 'upped contact. he returns my calls and says he will think about seeing me again,he was upset i called his mother,i am devastated miss him and cry all the time.will he come back if he still returns my calls? should i leave him alone?

Answer 1

Sounds like a brilliant relationship to bring up a kid in.  You're being really pathetic chasing after him too.

Dump him and figure out what is best for your kid.  You have a lot of work to do on yourself so you may want to consider adoption.

Answer 2

I would stop trying to contact him, and if he comes anywhere near me i would tell him to get lost. He's not worth it! No one in there right minds dumps thier girlfriend while she's pregnant and dumps her again because 'he got bored' then comes back skint.

Its obvious all he's in it for is the money and the s*x. Im sorry to say it so bluntly but theres other fish in the sea. Yeah, you might miss him and he might feel like the one. But there WILL be another guy who appreciates you, who loves you, and wouldn't leave you for the world.

So just forget about this guy, have nothing more to do with him, after all if you have this baby would you want his or her's father to keep walking out on you both? You need someone supportive. So like i said, just forget about this guy, he's not worth it at all!

Your perfect guy will come along soon, you just have to have patience and hope. :)

Hope i helped x*x

Answer 3

wft leave dam ur 28 u and u still with that dumb as go have a new dik

Answer 4

Sounds like he's pretty d**n immature and selfish to me. Didn't have to commit to you by marriage so he could simply come and go as he pleased without commitment. You kept enabling him by taking him back. Time to grow some self respect and go cold turkey..and Time for court ordered child support. Go see your local family services agency and Make him pay for the health care and hospital bills involved in having this baby. One way or another he's involved for life with you now with this baby. You have the power now, but find someone who treats you with respect rather than a doormat. You deserve better. Find a REAL man.

Answer 5

if this is his baby.  speak to him loud and clear and tell him what you expcxt of him, if he cant live up to what you need over this coming 9 months leave him.  its better to be alne than be with someone indecisive and inconsiderate

Answer 6

LEAVE HIM HE CANT MAKE UP HIS MIND

Answer 7

sounds like hes just a jack ***.... i say stick with him but give him some space

Answer 8

To be honest it feels like he might be playing you. I know those words sound hard to hear and even worse to think he might be doing it, but thats how it feels. It seems like he is looking after himself for everything 'he' wants with no worries about anyone elses feelings. He's wanting it all to be about him in most ways possible. Granted telling his mother was not the best option, but I understand if that felt to be your best option at the time.

I think you need to take control of the situation and lay down some rules. If you want him, act like you don't. Move away from him, don't get sucked into some of the things he says. Most of all take care of yourself and give yourself some more respect. If he really wanted you, you would know and he wouldn't be such a pain.

I know you are hurting, but you need to try and be strong through this. You can do it. Don't show him any weakness, be strong and look after yourself.

Take care.

Answer 9

Before marriage always use contraceptives.

Answer 10

Since you both still live at home your way too immature to be having a child.  Might as well get ready to make the big decision, if you keep it you will be dealing with this guy for ever, either trying to get child support or over visitation.  One of you has to be a grown up now.

Answer 11

Leave him alone. I'm sorry you love this jerk so much, but he is being a jerk to you. Don't let him come back until he cleans up his act. You deserve better.

Answer 12

HES 28 BUTT STILL ACKTING 8,I REALLY FEEL FOR YOU ,I KNOW HOW HARD IT IS.I DID WHAT YOUR DOING FOR 20 YRS. PLUS 2 KIDS ,DONT WASTED YOUR LIFE SITTING HOME WITH THE KIDS WAITING FOR HIM TO WALK THROUGH THAT DOOR,OR EVEN BETTER YET PACKING THE KIDS IN THE CAR AND DRIVING AROUND ALL NIGHT LOOKING FOR HIM...TRUST ME U WILL FINE SOMEONE ELSE IF U JUST OPEN YOUR EYES ,I WISH U LUCK ,SORRY U HAVE TO GO THOUGHT ALL THIS..IT WILL GET BETTER  ...DEBBIE

Answer 13

He sounds like a lost-cause.

This all sounds like your typical-american-relationship...kinda funny/sad all at the same time..

Answer 14

Yes leave him a lone i am sorry but this guy is a jerk and he will not change,let face it if a mn can talk to you like that he never be a sure thing and more than likely he been with other wonen

You really need to move on,you said you are pregnant well in this case i just get on and rare your child if he wants access let the courts decide when and were but get every thing legal,including child support

There be a  Guy to walk into your life who will teat you like a Queen so do not settle for this snake