What would *YOU* do - urgent responses wanted.... please?

Question

Rather than tell the whole tale again, it might be easier to read some of my other posts.

Basically my boyfriend broke up with me about twelve hours ago - but now he's saying he wants me back. He came over about half an hour ago and told me I'm nothing without him - which is true. He kissed me, which makes me want him back even more. I know that living with him will make all the pain and doubt go away - but the fact that he told my parents I'm g*y behind my back and broke up with me on the phone, and told everyone I raped him (which I'm not even sure is possible for two guys ?) is making me think twice.

I love him so much... I just don't know what to do. But he didn't apologise for telling my parents anything or lying to my friends. He's even turned my sister against me - she came round with him and yelled at me. Aren't twins meant to be close? Is it just becuase I mess everything up? Maybe I just don't deserve to be happy...

I'm utterly confused - and would desperately like some advice. Added to all this I haven't slept so my brain isn't functioning properly at all. Thanks to everyone who answered the other questions and apologise for the continuation of my life's stresses on here...

Answer 1

This guy is using you as a crutch for his own selfish reasons, get rid of him

Answer 2

This guy may have been your first relationship, its time to cut your looses. You will always have that special heart beat when you see him.If this dude has said all these things about rape to your friends how stupid are your friends. I know if I got raped the rapist would be the last person I would live with for 4 years. As far as the parents go, shame on him for telling, is that really love to knowing hurt your family, It may take time for your family to get use to the idea of you being g*y, What you do behind closed doors is only your own business, you are still there son, every parent has hopes and dreams for there child, one of them is not being g*y, give it time. Get rid of him, change the sheets and move on you deserve better.

Answer 3

You lost me at "He told me I am nothing without him, and thats true".  Have you lost your fcking mind?  You don't need no man or woman for that matter to be something.  If you are not something to yourself, how can you expect someone else to treat you like something.  That statement in itself tells me that mentally you must be challenged.  Girly, you need to wake up and find some self worth.  No man, not even this one will treat you like you deserve if you don't have anything within yourself.  You Are SOMETHING...OMG, what have your parents taught you?  If your parents don't accept you, forget them.  You have to live your life for you.  I suggest you dump the looney toon, their are other men out there.  I wouldn't deal with him since he disrupted my family life, but if my family couldn't accept me, thats on them.

Answer 4

break up with him. cut your losses, and the relationships with your family, will get fixed. why on earth would you want to be with someone that would do all of these terrible things to you? your family will always be there for you, through thick and thin, but this guy sounds like he could care less about you, and furthermore, is going behind your back and telling your family things so that they can get upset with you and turn against you. tell your family the truth about whatever (i'm guessing they weren't aware you were g*y) and move on. your family needs to accept you for YOU and the choices that YOU make in YOUR life.

good luck!

Answer 5

Im not even going to read all of what you wrote. Cuz one of the first things I read was that you got back with him cuz he came over and said that YOU and nothing without HIM? And you agreed with that? So you arent a person without him? Your life is over without him? Thats crazy talk.  

Answer 6

Wow! Your parents favored your boyfriend that much? That's a bit scary. It sounds like your bf is a jerk and likes to control you. The sentence " You are nothing without me" is very disturbing and shows that he is trying to control you. I'd get rid of him and show your family that you can be something without him, keep your head high and be sure to react responsibly to any confrontations. By law your parents have to pay your uni fees and if it comes down to it, take them to court. It sounds like you really need a new start. Ditch the bf and make some changes to make your life better. Losing someone you love is hard but being controlled and emotionally abused is harder. Do not let him continue to do this to you. Good luck and get some rest, things will look better after some sleep.