What would be the pros and cons of dating and perhaps marrying a powerful independent women?

Question

what would be the pros and cons of dating and perhaps marrying a powerful independent women? How would the family structure be different? How would the family roles be balanced? Answers from both women and guys?

Answer 1

I don't see any problem.

I believe that this is more or less the best possible relationship you may have: equal and different at the same time.

I always dated  (and now I am married with) independent and self confident women, with good success in what they do ( professional, cultural and social).

I always found our relationships enriching and that's the feeling of the other side.

There aren't specific changes in family structure: we do our house things in accordance with our respective job schedule and we take care of babies in accordance with our ability, at the end of the day, to do so.

Basically we do not differentiate about our family related tasks: we share.

Family roles, towards children, are automatically balanced because (it seems so obvious) men and women are equal in rights and potential (of learning and using skills, knowledge, and so on) but are different under many points of view ( including structure of thought, brain chemistry, hormones, different ways to react to similar situations).

No more, nor less, just different: and that is really nice.

This difference (in my opinion) enriches even more a relationship. In other people opinions this difference is not interesting or can be left to a less involving relationship, like a standafriendshipihp,  thus they make an homosexual choice about partners .

If both people in a couple are independent, have clear wills , they can support each other in moments of need and they can be able to really share and fully enjoy together the happy moments of life.

If one is the guide and the other a dependent , there will always be a hierarchical separation between the two parts of a couple: it will be always a limitation to unconditional love.

The only troubled relationship I had was with a too depending person, unable to enjoy and share life and just sitting and waiting for directions. I believe this is not a healthy kind of relationship

Answer 2

Consider this only if you have a flawed, dependent type of personality.

Answer 3

Pros: can't think of any..

Cons: too many to list.

Answer 4

Pros: You know she can hold her own in most situations. You're dealing with a fully functioning adult.

Cons: If she is the type, she may get arrogant and act superior.

If the couple love and respect each other, what better model for the children? The family structure would depend on the individuals involved.

Answer 5

That is the way I would like it.

I have always been attracted to strong and confident women. No problem with it when she is wearing the pants!

Anyway we can see a remarkable transformation in our society.

Women are catching up with men in the professional and public life, having great success in nearly all subjects of education, very often leaving their male counterparts far behind. If this continues - and trends show that the development is even accelerating - women will take the lead in a future society.

Many of them will be main or even sole breadwinners for their families, their husbands/partners being in a more supportive role, doing the housework and raising the kids (as stay-at-home dads), taking their wife´s last name in the marriage, being proud of the wife´s achievements.

I would expect this to be a very positive development, supporting women to be more confident and creative, and men to develop skills that have so far been neglected.  The society as a whole would benefit from it.

Maybe women will be more masculine (measured by traditional values), and many men will explore their inner femininity. But differences between the sexes will not vanish. There would only be a tremendous shift of power towards women´s rule. Provided this would be a loving society, there is nothing wrong with it.

Answer 6

Well depends because theres nothing wrong with a well balanced independent woman but overly independent she might not be one to submit or compromise at times.

Also she might become overly obsessed with money like some men do like O I pay majority so my rules appy or my child is gonna do this and that and the other without seeing what the child wants.

Also a independent woman can be a joy. Not always in my credit cards or being overly needy when your an adult.

Answer 7

sounds like a good situation to me. Why would there be cons?