What would be your priority of life? Love or Security of Life?

Question

i'm engaged but i don't love him much. I want to be with him because he could provide security of life for me. What i mean is, he would never find another women (i really trust him in this part as he don't like flirting), good financial , even he older than me 18yrs he love me much, he is my guide and shelter. This is what i mean by security.

Answer 1

I will go for love

Answer 2

you have daddy issues

Answer 3

Security won't keep your heart alive . You will die a slow death b/c you want to be where your heart is !  Its not with your history ....its with your future !

Answer 4

Marriage is based on love. That is the only way it is going to work. You should think about this before you get married. Are you really ready to marry someone just for the security that you dont love so much just to be sitting there thinking what your life would be like if you were with someone you REALLY LOVED. Honestly I have seen it happen one to many times and if your really in love with him then it is not going to last that long because you are always going to be wondering and wishing you were somewhere else.  

Answer 5

security can come or go but, love is here to stay.

Answer 6

I would personally choose security, because I know that in that situation I would have enough self control to stay faithful to the guy and to maybe learn to love him one day. (What can I say, I go where the money is, lol.)

But in YOUR situation, I think you have to ask yourself if you're really ready to stay with this guy when you only have lukewarm feelings for him. What IS more important to you, love or money? And what happens when a new guy comes along (and there WILL be another guy that shows up sometime down the road) and you feel a passion for him that haven't in years! You experience a burning lust for the first time in you don't know how long and he's young and s**y and available... Will you be able to stay with your husband and not stray?

Answer 7

I think that security should be a priority in life, but love should be the priority in a marriage.  You should not get married to someone whom you don't love just because he can provide for you. You don't think he would cheat on you, but would you end up cheating on him?  If you settle for this and you find someone who sweeps you off of your feet, could you say no?  Think about that for a long time because I believe that passion and love is more powerful than security to women.  

Answer 8

Marriage, I believe, is definitely about love. Money can't buy you happiness, its the person you're waking up next to each day that makes you want to survive. You should love him for the good man that he is, and how he treats you. It's quite rare to find someone that perfect. But don't jump into a marriage if you're not in love with the man, it'll only lead both of you to heartache.  

Answer 9

full fill for life you much have much both. but to love and to be love is the most treasure of all and there is not thing can come pare too and no one can put a price tag on it. Love you always have each other and that is the kind of the secure that we are hungry for and want to have as long as you live.

In other hand, financially is up and down. you may earn a bundle today but tomorrow you may earn less or nearly to nothing.

life is what you make of it. the value of life is require patient, honesty and hard work. What ever the choice you make today will leading to your future, so good luck with you decision