What would cause a 22 year old man to still live at home and not pay bills , to be lazy, and to be selfish..??

Question

My male friend lives with his single mother, and he doesn't even offer to pay any bills or buy food...he does work however...he is lazy, he doesn't do something unless he's asked over and over...he is stingy and selfish with his money, (he wont even loan money to his girlfriend) he is very unreliable and doesn't keep promises...

What would make a man behave like this, and is this something he could out grow, or will he always be this way as he gets older..??

Answer 1

His mother is an enabler who lets him be lazy and irresponsible. Maybe she is afraid if he leaves, she will be alone.

No, I don't think he will outgrow this. A person is usually formed by the time they are 20 years old. My daughter has met guys in their 30s who are still like that. He's a loser.

Answer 2

Unfortunately to say this is learned behavior. When such behaviour isn't corrected it becomes worse as they age. The way for him to learn is for his mother to give him some tough love and say look pay the bills or get the h**l out see who wants someone living off them. Its a lesson he'll have to learn real quick on how to survive. Sometimes this is one of the only ways they learn is when parents finally tell it how it is for them.

Answer 3

could be a million and one things. at his age it is not uncommon for a man to stay at home with parents.

the tightness with the money if it comes with him be rigid could be a form of disorder. but it sounds more like this is just the way he is .

  as for him being like this all his life. he will move out of the home but he may continue to be as you say lazy and tight with the money . i would not count on him changing his ways.

Answer 4

hey iam 22 live at home iaint looser i have learning dissibilitys and mabey he has some issues or something it sounds like he is trying to kill the pain and money to him it sounds like its a lot to him mabey he has a dream that hes trying to reach but he needs a wake up call or reminder he has loved ones and what he dose effects yall  to so tell him