What would go against you being able to adopt a child?

Question

Me & hubby are thinking about possibly adopting a child, not just yet but I feel like we have a great stable home, my hubby has a stable job but will be applying to join the Police force next year. We don't drink or do drugs & are nice normal people. My hubby's background is almost perfect except when he was a radio dj some listeners called in claiming to be 18yr old girls.My hubby & his friend both flirted & they started writing letters to each other.The letters were of a sexual nature in some parts & my hubby & his friend had a visit from the police as it turned out the girls were only 15yrs old & their parents found the letters.My hubby was questioned but no further action as he was telling the truth & the girls apolagised to him. Would this go against him?

Answer 1

best way to find out is apply hun  there are lots of kids waiting  for nice mummys+daddys  goods luck hun

Answer 2

It will DEFINATELY not go against him at all, infact it will not even be on record to be an issue.  Please do not let it put you off, theres so many lonely unwanted children in need of loving homes......

Answer 3

I'm pretty sure it wouldn't but i rlly hav no idea. it probly depends on where u want to adopt the child from and how strict the laws are there.

Answer 4

i only know about what is happening with type of case however i imagine it would be similar.

my husband is adopting my daughter (his step daughter) and he has had to involve social workers and get a criminal record check this also involves the police been called to a property for an arguement and goes back right back into even childhood, but if you inform the social worker dealing with your case they would advise on your statis but i think as long as there is no violence or abuse in any way i think things would go ok

Answer 5

If you are white, straight, middle class, and not disabled or on benefits then you have no chance.

Answer 6

I think you would have no problems with the adoption.  

Unless he was actually arrested and charges where filed, there is likely no record of the incident and it wouldn't show up on any background check.  Even if there is a record, it is pretty easy to explain (as you have here).  When you go through the home study, you will have to get an FBI background check, when you do, mention the incident to the adoption counselor and explain that no charges were file and/or the incident was dropped.

If his background check is clean enough to get hired as a police officer, it is likely fine to get cleared for an adoption.  

I don't think this will be a problem.

Answer 7

I don't think this issue would even be brought up as no charges against your husband were made, and I assume he wont have a criminal record?  If he does then this can sometimes go against you.

Just be honest with the adoption agency.

Answer 8

Adoption is a long and complicated proceedure. In my opinion, the incident you mentioned should not go against you, under the condition that there was no criminal record filed about it. As another reply stated if this incident doesn't stop him from joining the police force, then it shouldn't have an impact. You're not obliged to speak about it during your adoption interview. I think it is a great action to adopt a child, and wish you success in this adventure.

Answer 9

Hi, i knew a couple that wanted to adopt, they both have very good jobs and have a stable home, he had a police caution but were approved by the adoption services, so as your husband hasnt got a record then i cant see why you cant go for it. Talk to the adoption services they can answer all of your questions

Good Luck

Answer 10

No, i doubt it as long as you explain the circumstances and don't try to hide i. The adoption process can be very long, so perhaps you should apply now then you can make a start.

Answer 11

A criminal record of any kind is a red flag. Since there was no record because apparently no charges were filed, this would not likely show up during a background check.

Anything that shows on a background check is what they are looking for. They also do a sexual predator background check as well. Its likely that if your husband is applying to become a police officer, he will have gone through many of the same checks that are required for an adoption.

I would not do anything with this unless you have to.

Answer 12

idk.... i dont think that this should b put against him. the past is the past.  u cant change it, so deal with it.

~~miranda =)

Answer 13

I dont think it will be an issue. When you apply make sure you are honest and tell them, just in case they find out. Its better to be safe than sorry.

Answer 14

if it did not stop him becoming a copper it wont matter for adoption good luck

Answer 15

A think it depends on the authority and what their rules are.

My partner and I probably wouldn't be allowed to adopt from what I've read on the subject, as we're on a low income and he's 11 years younger than me - that would be "unsettling" for the child apparently.  It would be OK if the man was 11 years older than the woman though.  Hyopcrisy.

There are plenty of kiddies wanting mummies and daddies but there are lots of lovely mummies and daddies turned down for stupid reasons.

Answer 16

if there is no police record, and no charges made then it shouldn't.

Answer 17

That problem MIGHT go against him.

I am sure if you thoroughly discuss this with a worker, then they might not hold it against him.

How old was he when this happened?

Answer 18

A criminal record could be used to stop an adoption. With the situation you described, if there is no record of the letters , no charges filed, etc. I would not bring it up. It could be taken wrong or negative for sure.

Answer 19

NO THAT SHOULD NOT GO AGAINST HIM !!!!

Answer 20

If it would not show up in a criminal background check, then it shouldn't go against him.

If you don't know whether or not it would show up, honesty is the best policy...tell your case worker.

If you know for sure it will not show up on a background check, then there's no need to mention it...just be 100% sure first.

Answer 21

well i just want to say that i am glad that youwould like to adopt and good on u!

i dont thuink they will put this against your husband because lots of people has something in their past that their not proud of but thats just the thing it wasin the PAST hope this has helped you

x

Answer 22

it might, he needs to contact social services and see before you make any plans..................maybe joining the police may help

Answer 23

No. surely if it doesn't stop him getting into the Police force then it shouldn't stop you adopting a child.

Answer 24

If your husband has a record for

"child abuse/solicitation/endangerment" or things along those lines like you describe....... it may (or may not!) prevent him from entering the police academy as well as adopting a child.  But you say nothing ever came of it, so it may not be an issue.

In adoptions all states look to the "best interests of the child" when making a placement determination. Many state courts or agencies will use the "best interests" argument to judge a prospective adoptive parent or couple according to preconceived biases about who makes a good or a fit parent.

Go to the website below-- all kinds of good information there for you.   GOOD LUCK.