What would life be like if I married my boyfriend in the air force?

Question

My boyfriend is currently in basic training. Its his last week before graduation and he wants to get married when he returns home from tech school. I have spoken to him VERY little since he has left so I have no idea what is going on or what things would be like for me in the event that this happened. Would he be gone a lot, moved around a lot, where would I live, and what would that be like?

Answer 1

Hey 'soldier'... thank you for your service, glad you are back home... however... your answer would scare the h*$ out of anybody! :-)) Not ALL wives/girlfriends cheat ... and not ALL guys come home and kill people (although, yes... it does happen (cheating).  

To address the question asked: how long have you known one another? The lack of communication (and although he is in basic ... they can write and call occasionally)... concerns me. It is excellent you are thinking all these things out.

Being a military spouse is not easy. There are frequent separations depending upon the branch and MOS (job). Some deployments spouses can accompany them (e.g. to Germany as an example), others they cannot (Iraq, Kuwait, A-Stan).  Also, there can be frequent moves...

Bottom line however, is how you feel about him...and your relationship (if you feel 'ready' to get married). Marriage in and of itself is wonderful but takes lots of effort, compromise, etc.). If you are not ready, do not feel pressured to get married. If you love/really like him, just let him know you care a lot... will be there for him but need more time before making such an important decision.

Many times when the guys know they are getting deployed (or think they are getting deployed) they want to get married so they feel they have someone 'waiting' for them when they get home. If they are deployed to rough zones, yes... there are many adjustments for them to make when they do get home and it isn't always easy on either spouse.

I wish you good luck and... congratulations to your boyfriend!

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Answer 2

what would life be like if you married your boyfriend in the pokey?

Answer 3

truly it would be hard  

Answer 4

If you want to change your whole life for him, go for it.  But dont cheat on him when he is gone.  I got 4 yrs in the Army and most women are not cut out for it.  When their man goes to Iraq, they leave the man and/or cheat on them.  Guys are a little crazy when they get back and have committed murder because of combat stress.  ONLY if you want to change your whole life around.....remember

Answer 5

Ma'am, your boyfriend is in service which means that he could  be called for duty at any moment. The truth is no one can tell how long they will be gone or how often.

Answer 6

You would have to move with him where ever he gets stationed. He might be gone a while too depending on his Job.

Answer 7

Dont listen to some of the people here. In the Air Force they have the shortest deployments(next to the Coast Guard) and have a pretty nice family life. He'll be deployed yes..but most jobs you work 7-4 and go home.(Wherever he is stationed that is).