What would make a woman who grew up to view men and women as equals?

Question

date a man who is a domineering, controlling misogynist?

I ask this, because a lot of men know that I am a "powerful woman," ie...I am president at my grad school, I know a lot of people, professional, yet...some of the men who act this way still treat me in this manner. I know some men will always view women in a certain light, but why wouldn't they just stay away from me instead of thinking that I will change?

I literally ignore these types, and it seems to get them even more upset!

Answer 1

Because you scare the c**p out of them. People that act "superior" do it to everyone they can, with whatever means they can. If their dominant behavior doesn't work on you the first time, they're going to be frustrated and attack you more. And since this behavior in men has been encouraged for a couple of millennia by each other, it's going to appear more often in men. They don't even know that everyone knows they are doing it. If you can picture recess in 5th grade it's easier to remember how to decipher the immature "kids" from those with age appropriate behavior.  

Answer 2

I agree with Tracey.  You are a chalenge that they just can't resist.

Answer 3

You're powerful, eh?  Have you developed the ability to tell someone "No thanks, I'm not interested" to their face yet?  Hope you've been working on that one little miss powerful thang.

Answer 4

I call this mentality the "pre-alpha" stage of male development.  This is where a man has all of the confidence and tools to be a strong individual.  However, he has not learned to distance results from effort.  They think you're a challenge, but don't haven't learned how to act maturely when they don't get what they want.  They resent their own failure and hence act immaturely.  Eventually, some of these guys move on to the alpha stage and are highly desired my most women, the ones who don't are what society calls "jerks."

Answer 5

IT depends what you mean by "domineering, controlling misogynists" do you mean they order for you or insist on paying for everything or do they belittle you, hit you and try to tell you to dress and act a certain way?

Answer 6

If that's how you feel, why don't you just stay away from them?!  Maybe they treat this way because you come across as a bit uppity!

Edit:  Darlin', if you think that you come across as an egalitarian, you are sadly mistaken.  I have only been here two days and already seen two questions from you about these so called "misogynistic" men.   If this is how it is all the time it must be your perception, cause certainly ALL these men aren't pigs.

Answer 7

Nothing, unless she had no self-respect.

Controlling people always think they can change others. It'll take a good kick in the head for them to realize the truth. In the meantime, if ignoring them doesn't work, just tell them off; that's what I do.

Answer 8

I suspect you are over estimating your own self worth to these guys and likely projecting an inaccurate image. You sound as though you have convinced yourself of a fiction that fits your needs rather then having an opened mind and taking each individual as a unique person and treating them in kind, your lumping them all into one group and discounting their value is a mistake.

Its unfortunate for your own growth that so many women with an agenda should give you so much fuel for your growing dislike of men.

Answer 9

I suspect such men are little ego-mongers who think you would be a "challenge" to "break."

The only thing that exceeds their egos are their delusions. Ignore them, as they deserve.