What would make me seem more mature?

Question

I'm a pre-teen and my parents don't think I'm mature, I'm honestly a really silly and bat-chatty girl. My parents don't me go out on my own and they don't trust me. What will make them trust me more??

Answer 1

give it a few YEARS

Answer 2

i think you do a little more chores that you're parents hate to do and if you have little brothers or sisters help them out with stuff even if its stupid

Answer 3

I use to tell my kids it's not you i don't trust it's all the other idiots out there. don't try to grow up too fast

Answer 4

As long as you are silly and bat-chatty, I'd say you don't have much of a chance.

Mature people are silly when the time calls for it, but only reasonably so.  Mature people know how and when to listen and how and when to talk.

Try being less silly and less bat-chatty.  Try doing the things a mature person does:  your own laundry, cleaning your own room and helping out around the house all without being asked.  Be aware of your surroundings and things that are out of place:  the towel in the bathroom that fell onto the floor, the dryer sheet that needs to be thrown away and the carpet that needs to be vacuumed.  Try using your manners in every and all situations.  Help out with dinner without being asked.  Keep the bathroom clean.  Don't whine or nag or pout when you don't get your way.  Do your homework as soon as you get home and keep your grades up to A's and B's al the time.  Get your priorities straight:  study for that test you know is going to be a challenge for you instead of going to your friend's house, for example.  NEVER use that old worthless saying "All my friends have one or are allowed to" because THAT is NOT going to help you out.

Think about the things you want to be able to do and come up real reasons you think you should be allowed to do those things.  Come up with some rules that you will follow and some harsh punishments that you will abide by should you break the rules.  For example, let's say you want to go out with friends and your curfew is 7pm on a week night.  If you don't get home by 7 then your punishment would be no cell phone for 2 weeks.  Punishments have to hit YOU where it hurts, so think about the things that are the most important to you and work them into the punishments.  By doing this...writing down what privileges you want, the rules to go along with them and the punishments, you are showing your parents that you can think rationally about things and understand that there ARE ALWAYS repercussions to your actions.

I hope this helps.  Growing up isn't easy for most people and it is equally difficult for parents to accept that their child is growing up.  your parents only want to keep you safe as best they can.  Good luck.