What would men prefer?

Question

This thought came to me from answers in an earlier question. Someone said that women benefit from having defined roles in a patriarchy and that they enjoy more protection and safety than men.

So my question to the guys here is: if the world suddenly changed and said "men can only work inside the home and take care of the family, but they don't need to worry anymore about the pressures of a career or dangerous blue collar jobs" would you be happy about this or prefer the status quo?

Answer 1

Heck yeah I have done both jobs. I have worked outside the home and for a time I was a SAHD and I'll take being with the kids anyday.

So you feminists get that law passed.

Answer 2

Oh yes please I would be in heaven bring it on I say.

Answer 3

If women benefited so much from patriarchy, why did they spend so much time destroying it? I'd take a career over "protection and safety" any day.

Personally, my ideal world is one in which everyone gets to do whatever they want, male and female.

Answer 4

Exactly that question came to my mind, CC: In my marriage, as a man, could I be comfortable with a position which women had in the fifties, staying at home, cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing, raising the kids while my wife brings home the bacon, is competing with others in the outside world, protecting us, being head of the family, with me taking her last name in the marriage?  Perhaps I would be allowed to have a part time job, if she agreed, and if the children were old enough.

To be honest: I often dreamed of that. I have always been attracted to assertive and confident women, and if my wife did well wearing the pants, being in charge, why should I worry?

Unfortunately I never found the woman to try such a female led lifestyle. It was always me who earned more. So it did not make sense to change roles completely (we could not afford it).

But when I will retire from work (in the near future) and my wife will still have to work for some time, we´ll try a little bit of it.  I think she will like it to know me at home, doing the housework. We´ll need only one car, she told me already. And surely, it will not be at my disposal !

I remember that in the fifties, when I was ayoung child, most women did not even have a driving license.

I think it works the other way round. I am very curious how we will manage it.

If you ask me again in a few years, I can possibly tell you how a husbands feels in a matriarchal family lifestyle.

Answer 5

I would think it was silly to tell people what they can and can't do. That's like fascism. Even for women, such a "you can't and you must" set of rules have never been established (in relatively modern America, that is). There were societal norms against women working, but if women really wanted to, they could do anything they want.    

Answer 6

I'd be fine with it provided I still enjoy a smorgasbord of women and sexual partners.

I don't really have any interest in watching kids all day. But if my wife/girlfriend wants to provide money, food and shelter in exchange for my attention and hot body, I have no problem with that.

Answer 7

Well, my time in the Marines makes me an excellent candidate for domestic work.  I cook, clean, sew, do laundry, scrub toilets, etc.

My wife and live our lives as a team.  We have specific roles and we play our parts.  If my part were to support her as she made a ton of money in the career sector, I would embrace that.  it's for the betterment of both of us.

Answer 8

I prefer choice - for everybody.  This does not mean I prefer the status quo, nor does it mean that, given these circumstances, I would prefer to stay at home. Security - particularly the kind of security which reduces my ability to choose the direction of my life, is meaningless to me. Given the alternatives you allowed for, I would choose the "status quo" - but that does not mean I consider the "status quo" with regard to men and women's gender roles to be acceptable or even clearly defined.  

Answer 9

yes, I would embrace whichever role best serves our wants & needs !