What would u do if u found out ur 14yr old daugter was...?

Question

Smoking cigarettes??

Answer 1

Smoking makes you uglier then Fugly and if she has banged up teeth and wrinkles and bad breath it will keep the guys away from her.

That is one good thing. Don't have to worry about boys.

The bad thing is that she will not live as long as she should.

Answer 2

If she wants to be ugly then she can be ugly but just in a way that won't give her lung cancer or breathing problems

Answer 3

NOT buy them for her, she wants to smoke then she can find a way to pay for them'

I do NOT smoke so I would tell her NOT to smoke in the house and if I found out she was I would empty her room out and every thing but the bed and some clothes.  

If she got an allowance I would tell her that would go to if she smoked in the house..

Answer 4

As a former 14yr old smoker who is now a parent, I wouldn't yell or lecture. I would ask my daughter where she got them, how long she has been smoking for and why she likes to smoke. I would then express to her very calmly that I am disappointed. I would also tell her that I will not be supporting her habit and therefore, if she chooses to continue (knowing the health risks) she will have to get a job and find a way to purchase them herself. She would have to agree to smoke outdoors, keep all her butts in an ashtray (again at her expense) and not smoke in front of elderly people or children, not in public and not at school. If she couldn't agree to and stick to the contract then I would have to get really mad and put a stop to it right away. I believe that in some situations, when dealing with a teenager who is growing up into an adult that it is only fair to speak to treat them like a teenager who is growing into an adult and not like a child.

Answer 5

Well i would do what my dad did to me ...i started smoking at 15 he knew this and he sat down by me and looked at me and said 'My cancer has come back and i have to go through Chemo and being sick and losing my hair too' by this time his eyes were filling up, after this chat i stopped and i never forget seeing him come home after Chemo and constantly being sick and finding clumps of his hair on his pillow and in the sink ..that was enough for me and think about it ..Is It Worth It ?

Answer 6

The need to smoke is rooted in neuroticism.  From somewhere in your family she inherited the tendency to be neurotic.  Any physical activity she enjoys doing, I would probably encourage her to do it more often to work off that energy.  The best therapy for smokers, believe it or not, is sports.

That energy NEEDS to be worked off, it has to go somewhere.  I remember when I was 14, being so damned tense, I actually considered smoking to calm down.  But then I got into weight training and that was the end of that.

I'm not a parent, but I still remember much of my youth; what worked, what didn't work, and I seem to remember more than most people so, speaking more or less from her perspective, anything she likes, anything at all that is exercise, or a fun physical activity (sans premarital intercourse) that she enjoys, encourage her in that direction.  From my school days, I remember that smoking girls were always branded as "s****s," and forgive me for saying this, there was truth in it.

I'm not saying its true of your daughter, what I am saying is that if she does not rechannel that energy or work it off, she may resort to intimate activity to calm herself down, and you don't want that at that age.  What a girl does with her body is her business if she is prepared to live with the consequences that is.  She's yours until she's 18, after that, she can do as she pleases.  That's always the way I've seen it.

Listen; I have observed, neurotic women and girls, tend to be the most promiscuous because they do not work off that energy.  In the Islamic world, because throughout the history there has been high infant mortality, more than any place on earth except maybe Africa, many semitic people have a strong libido because it was "naturally selected" so to speak, to keep up with high infant mortality rates.  The end result is that many Arab girls are extremely libidinous, so much so that is the reason the parents place such near dictatorial control over their bodies.  When a semitic girl gets out of control, its never a pretty sight.  That is the reason the Arabs obsessively protect a girl's virginity, now...

What this has to do with your daughter is, get her to work off that energy before its too late.  I remember, clearly, the stigma attached to smoking girls.  And hard as this may be to hear, because of the endorphins released during intimate relations, she may resort to that if she caves in from pressure from friends to calm herself down, and depend on it like a drug.  Girls who do not work off their energy and are not kept busy, become "s****s."  That much I know for sure.

If she is smoking, it is because she does so to calm her nerves.  Have her take up yoga; it will teach her control, it will increase the likelihood that she will give herself to someone she loves rather than some r****d, and, it will teach her discipline and calm her nerves without placing any harmful chemicals into her body.

My apologies for the personal nature of this e-mail if it sounded too personal for comfort, I was just warning you of how far it can escalate.  The bottom line is this; she needs to work off that energy, and learn how to focus it.

Anything you know, anything you can do, do it.

Hope that helps.

Answer 7

First, find out who bought them for you - or sold them to you.  It's illegal and YES I'd press charges.

Second, you'd be so grounded.

Third, make you take all kinds of classes and seminars on the hazards of smoking (that's torture in itself).

Forth, make you write several essays on why you think smoking is bad / good / and ways to stop / promote it.

You'd hate me when it was all over but thank me later for you lack of cancer and ability to walk up the stairs.

Answer 8

Mine did but she lived with her dad at the time and there wasnt a lot i could do. (clear across the river/in another state)  Now that wasnt THAT far...one of those 3state line things but ....nope. she had made up her mind and that was that and he wanted to deal with her. and then he changed his mind. LMAO!!! yeap.  she was sumptin!! but she turned out to be the best !!! She is a sweet lil Momma of a 3 yr old now , a full time college student, full time Momma AND full time worker! PROUD of her!!!!

Answer 9

Cry.

Answer 10

My mum found my cigarettes when I was 15, she took them, put water into the packet so they were wrecked and then put them back in my bag, didnt tell me for years. Anyway I couldnt afford any more cigarettes and it isnt easy to get them when you are so young so I didnt take up smoking again til 17 and then when I was 18 my boyfriend made me give it up using emotional blackmail lol

Actually the way he made me quit could be useful to you, he got really upset about relatives dying of lung cancer and said he couldnt stand to watch me killing myself. If you are a good actor, approach her one day visibly upset and talk to her about a co-worker who died from a smoking related disease, and how that co-worker was only smoking for a small amount of time or something like that.

Answer 11

Ask her why she is doing it and make sure that she stops.

Answer 12

Ring the hospital and ask if there are patients in the emphysema ward who would be happy to meet with her.

My friend did this and her son stopped straight away..he went gray for awhile lol

Answer 13

Cry, then take her to the cancer ward at the Hospital.

I am very anti-smoking, so it wouldn't be pretty here.

Amen to Angie!! xxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 14

Personally i would be very upset and disappointed.    I would of hoped i raised her better. I know i can't be with her  24/7 but i would take tighter reins. Smoking is such a ugly habit  and so unhealthy

Answer 15

i would be like do whatever you just dont come complaining to me when you have lung cancer and dont say it wont happen because if you keep smoking you will get lung cancer very fast and very soon. and im 14

Answer 16

i would kick her as*s

Answer 17

Out in public sing:

I am cancer

I am cancer

Dont smoke me

Dont smoke me

Ill give you emphaziema

Ill give you emphaziema

Dont smoke me

Dont smoke me

Remember where is thumbkin? the kiddie song?

Yeah, it goes to that tune.

Sing it loud and proud till she comes clean.

I don't think she will ever want to smoke again.

Sing it at the grocery store, sing it at the mall, sing it wherever there are hot boys.

She will crack.

Answer 18

I would stop them from smoking cigarettes

Answer 19

What my uncle did when he caught me and my cousins, he got a pack of camel cigarettes and made us smoke (inhaling and all) until we got dizzy and threw up.  That taught us a lesson.   God Bless.

Answer 20

I would do exactly what my dad did to me. I had a full pack minus one that he found in my room. He made me smoke the whole thing at once...I was SO sick I didn't touch one again until well after I was old enough to smoke legally!

Answer 21

Take her to talk to someone dying of COPD, lung cancer or some other lovely side-effect of a life-time of smoking; calculate for her exactly how much money she is likely to spend on cigarettes during her lifetime; and talk to to her about it in an adult to adult way.