What would u do if your sister in law came to your house 'on vacation' 3 mos and didn't help pay 4 anything?

Question

A) Move out

B) Kick her out

C) Make her 3 months miserable so it doesn't happen again

D) Be a good wife and put up with it for 3 months without saying anything

She just showed up and said she was staying for 3 months, we didn't know until she got here.

Answer 1

I'd hand her the employment want ads and tell her she has only one more week to get a job and start paying for rent and needs!!  OR to get the h**l out!!

See, I guess I"m mean............you hav one week at my place for free an thats it.........no more  no longer!!!

Answer 2

What was the reason for her showing up?  If it's because she has no money and/or her and her husband got into a fight?  I would be understanding base on the reason.  Your husband needs to have a talk with her in front of you and state that your husband & you his wife need to have a understanding with you.  

1 - Tell her People just don't show up and tell us that they are going to stay for 3 months with out us discussing this matter first we are married.

2 - Most of all try to understand and get to the bottom of the reason she just showed up.

3 - Let her know that if you decide to let her stay this long after 1 the first few days or 1 week of staying here, puts a financial burden on our pocket and marriage she will have to start paying for food and room & board.  Warning!  If she starts paying you rent then she because a tenant and then based on your state laws if you decide you want her out and she doesn't leave then you would have file an eviction and go though the court systems.

4 - Have her sign a notice stating that she can only stay here for X amount of days and with you expect from her as will.  Then either she agrees or she leaves.  That should solve the problem.

Answer 3

at least talk to her, explain to her that she arrived unannounced  & if she expects to stay there for 3 months then she needs to help with stuff around the house like housework, water bill, cooking, electric bill, laundry

Answer 4

Throw her stuff out on the lawn and get the locks changed. You and your husband don't need to put up with her nonsense! Then tell her she's no longer welcome until she can grow up.

Answer 5

Welcome to the world of "family"  I've been in your shoes more than one time. Next time, she comes to visit... set the record straight. Let her stay, if you agree on it. But, set boundaries. Let her know how much of a hardship it was on you- and to feed an extra month everyday for 3 months.. was rough. Believe me, they understand.... communication my dear!

Answer 6

If I had to pick one, I guess it would be D however, I'd ask my husband to intervene.  It is after all his sister.  If my sister came unannounced, I think he'd expect me to handle it.  He should either ask her for financial assistance when buying groceries or eating out (if you do that together) and ask her to give you both a specific time table for her stay and then make sure she sticks to it.  Your husband probably doesn't like the situation either so you both should try to be a team and figure out how to make it work together.

Answer 7

Is she your husband's sister?  Then he needs to talk to her and see why she showed up unexpected and feels she wants to stay for that long.. the rest of your answer depends on what she has to say.. if she's trying to run away from an abusive boyfriend.. then help her, help her to get a job, and start a new life.. if she's just landing there to live off you for three months, your husband needs to tell her 3 months is too long for company and that she's welcome for 2 weeks or whatever you two agree is reasonable.  

Answer 8

You need to establish a better understanding with dear old hubby. First of all, I would let him know that he is not the dictator he thinks he is in the home. That he has to compromise, at best, on her being there. I would not kick her out; however, she would earn her keep. Keeping all the floors clean weekly/daily, etc. Something around the house to make her stay easier on you. Sure, he does not mind; however, you do and so would I. When you married, the rule was that you two had to forsake 'all others', adhearing to the compromise you two make. Not just the decision or wishes of one of you. I would let her know to her face, in a gentle way, I don't wish to share my home with you or anyone at this time. I married your brother and our house is only comfortable for immediate family to be in presently. I would speak to her directly, in front of hubby, so no other words or gestures can be accused. Let it be known that, as a partner of the marriage, you are owed a full explaination of why Sister has intruded on your privacy for 3 months with no financial help. After all, anything hubby pays for in her being there, takes away from the immediate family needs as well. You are being disrespected and it is up to you to make this known to both of them or you will have this happen again and again, as his family sees fit or the need. It is Ok for her to have need, it is not OK for them to expect you to sacrifice and not be even told why.  

Answer 9

Sounds like she's trying to escape living with her mom for awhile for some freedom, or abusive boyfriend, etc. Something along those lines, it would be good to find out if something is wrong before going into a free vacation mode. Then if there is nothing wrong set some boundaries, if she's not working then helping around the house, cleaning, laundry, cooking, etc. If she is working then helping with some of the bills, groceries, etc. 3 months is a long time and if shes not helping out, then its very stressful for everybody involved, and your husband should have a heart to heart with her about her "vacation".

Answer 10

I would have told her that I had a 2 week limit on vacationing relatives. Then I would have nagged my husband until he kicked her out.

Answer 11

E) Type up a bill with the headline "Hotel Smith" Total Due: $_____. Place on dinner plate. This would have happened after 3 days, not 3 months.