What would u think about her?

Question

You work with a girl who seems to have her guard up but is really sweet and quiet. If you initiate conversations, she'll open up a little to you. She's generally very quiet though. You recently got a card from her where she thanked you for always being there for her. She also said she's glad she has gotten to know you. You saw her at a party the other day, went over to her to thank her and told her the note was beautiful. She just lowered her head and smiled. She had trouble making eye contact when you were thanking her. Later on, when you tried to point out her gesture to the group you were with, she reacted the same way.

What would go through your mind after seeing how she responded to you both times?

Answer 1

It sounds like someone who may be going through a tough time, possibly not sure of herself and is having a hard time believing anyone would offer any sort of support or concern. Maybe, she is shy or afraid of letting someone get close to her but it sounds like she appreciates the conversations and hopefully in time will open up just a little more.

Answer 2

She may be shy.

She might not have very much self confidence.

She finds it hard to accept complements.

She might not have liked you calling attention to her in a group situation.  In time she might come around.  Keep connecting to her.

Best Wishes.

Answer 3

I would think she was embarrassed that you brought it up in the group and another day at work I would ask her about it.

Answer 4

you pretty much just described me right there.  i lack allot of self confidence and find it really difficult to open up to people unless they open up to me.  i get really shy and a bit withdrawn if I'm with a group of people i don't know and i always feel that if i be myself then people wont understand me or will think I'm strange.  i had a best friend for 4 years who stopped talking to me after a massive fight we had one night a couple of years ago, it devastated me.  i felt she was the only one who understood me and who i could talk to about anything, she was such a close & trustworthy friend.   it takes a LONG time before i can be my true self around people now because I'm afraid ill get hurt again.  but I'm getting better. i just keep to myself and if someone initiates a conversation I'm happy to talk, but i do get a bit nervous around unfamiliar people and feel a bit vulnerable.    

Answer 5

just sounds like she's shy of expressin emotion, especially infront of a group

Answer 6

I am the same way...she just lacks self esteem...these are classic signs..if she didnt like people or was just nasty, she would not seem so sweet. Best thing to do is, dont point out her gesture to the group if she is there at the time, it is a sure fire way to embarrass her and make her want to avoid you, she will think "this person is nothing like me, they are too confident, therefore they wont understand me, I need to avoid them before I embarass myself"....I am much better with self esteem now, but I swear she sounds just how I used to be. Its just low self esteem. Compliment her, but not too much, and dont act too confident around her, or she will think you you can never understand her.....when I had such low self esteem I was attracted to people who also had low self esteem, and didnt trust myself around confident people because I was sure I would do something to embarass myself and they seemed to see the world so differently I thought they would never understand me or have anything in common with me.

Answer 7

I would think she was rather shy.