What would u think about me?

Question

There's an older woman I work with who's friends with my mom. I don't really know her very well. She told my mom that when she sees me at work, she'll say hi but she barely gets a smile or wave outta me and I'm really quiet. Sometimes I'll give a small wave. My mom told her that's just how I am. Until I get to know people, I don't talk or open up.

I'm always worried about giving off a bad impression to people. If you worked with me and I acted like this, what would u think? Would u think I was mean?

Answer 1

I think people will react differently from eachother.  Some people will think you're standoffish, and others will understand you're just quiet.  Maybe to try to find a middle ground, and try to make one or two gestures a day - of saying Hi to someone new, or just asking your mom's friend How She Is, a few days a week.  That way, you're still being you, not changing yourself much, but just putting worth a little effort so there's no place to be misinterpreted.

Or just tell her that you're nice, but a bit shy, and that way, she'll know, and if anyone in the office ever asks her about you, she can tell that you're shy as well.

Answer 2

you're like me, you're good

Answer 3

I'd think you were shy.

Answer 4

I would at least smile and wave...

I'm really, really shy, too, but there's no harm done in smiling and waving..

Being so shy, not waving, not smiling, just walking by and ignoring someone that said hi to you, it can come off as rude and insulting to the person that said hi to you, especially since they may not always know that "that's just how you are"

Answer 5

Being quiet is fine. Just don't be that quiet around your bosses in life :)

Answer 6

I am the same way. That does not mean you are mean, I think its more of a shyness thing. Sometimes perhaps a trust thing. But never really a mean thing. We don't intend to be mean! Anyway I made it thru the beginning work stage, I own two businesses, and I am still the same way! People that know me, know thats how I am, and usually I interest the people who do not know me. I think they know I am shy and they wonder how I could be successful. :-) Good luck and no worries, you will make it just fine. Promise.

Answer 7

No, I wouldnt, but it is always hard

my dad is EXACTLY like that and when we got a new vicar, the vicar was so worried he had done something to upset my dad that he took him out for a drink to check everything was all okay!

its fine, im sure youll grow out of it, just remember to be confident and smile : ) x x x x

Answer 8

You don't need to chat it up at work to be liked, but saying hello or good morning when you arrive and goodnight or goodbye when you leave is just proper etiquette and that will prevent people from disliking you.

Answer 9

I might think you are one of those people who " don't have time for old people" - sad, but true.

Answer 10

I would think that you don't like me if you did that to me

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Answer 11

I would think you're a private person and probably less outgoing than I was.  I wouldn't think you were mean, but I also wouldn't be the one to share office gossip with you either.

Answer 12

I would just think that your shy. If you smile when a person speaks to you it softens the tension and makes you approachable. Just smile and say "goodmorning" and if they want to speak to you further they will. Also when you smile it makes people think you are happy and they will leave you alone!

Answer 13

naaaaaah i think your just a shy person

Answer 14

I'd think you're either very shy or stuck up, but you facial expressions also count.  

Answer 15

Not at all - I'd just think you were shy.  

Answer 16

i'd just think you're shy

Answer 17

I'd probably think that you weren't interested in making friends at work, and I'd go hang out with someone more out-going.

Answer 18

I would think you are not mean but rude. I hate to go someplace and be friendly to someone and they just ignore me like cashiers etc. Just try to smile a little more and that should do it. You sound a little shy and I know its hard when your shy but after awhile it will start to come natural. Take it from someone whos knows.