What would u think if you were in this situation?

Question

I got a call from a friend who only seems to call when she wants something from me. During the end of the call, she said she had a question but wanted to put no pressure on me to say yes. She kept emphasizing that there was no pressure. Then she asked me if I could make a picture slide-show with her wedding pictures and put them on a DVD b/c she couldn't get it with her package deal from the professionals.

I teach and have a lot on my plate this year: I got a new grade level, am becoming an advisor for the first time and have to start taking classes. It's so time consuming to make the slide-shows, so I told her I could work on it next summer. She didn't like the fact that she'd have to wait that long. She became very curt and annoyed and didn't want to hear my reasons and said she'd find someone else. I changed the subject quickly to avoid the awkwardness of it all.

What would u think if you were in this situation?

Answer 1

I completely agree with you.

She wants them that badly she'll pay for them.  Its not up to you to do those things for her when you have plenty to do yourself.  If she doesnt want to listen to you just move on. My aunty is like that, and we told her that.

She now doesnt bother that much

Put yourself first.

Answer 2

I would think a FRIEND doesn't just call when she WANTS something ... get away from this person , she's no friend of yours . She's just concerned about what she can get from you.

Answer 3

First of all, Congratulations on all of your success!  You've clearly accomplished plenty, hence the full plate.  This is a common scenario, especially with families --people are busy or going through their own issues.  It's tough to find common balances in our lives, especially when you're working and having to go to school -- I've been there, and was out of the house 12+ hours a day!  

Knowing what you are doing in your life, your friend should have known better than to ask that sort of favor.  While it's a good feeling to be asked of that sort of thing, it was sort of immature of her to hasty towards you.  Plus, you know what happens to people who get mad?  They get glad again!  

You had mentioned at the very beginning of your question that your friend only calls you when she wants something from you.  Is that really what a true friend is?  You need to question if this friendship is a healthy one, at the very least.  

Don't worry about your friend - remember that she has begun her journey of married life, she'll get over the slideshow incident  soon enough once she has a bun in the oven!

Answer 4

perfectly natural reactions from both ends...good that youre no longer a push over..;)

Answer 5

Sometimes it is good to express how you feel about a situation instead of being passive about it. Your friend's wedding slide-show is important, but not nearly as important as your life and future is.

  I feel that if your friend cares about who you are and where you are in the next year, she will understand that if she wants you to make the slide-show, she has to wait.

  After all, she did say no pressure, right?