What would you advice a person to make a marriage lifelong successful?

Question

Sincere and quality answers please..

Answer 1

Communicate and negotiate, remember to tell eachother you love them at least 1 a day, remember everyday why you married the person you married.  

Answer 2

No secrets.

Don't go to bed angry.

Put materialism in its proper place.

Agree about having kids before the wedding.

Who's responsible for birth control.

Understand your financial priorities (insurance, housing, who does bills, etc.)

With which parents will you spend each holiday.

Each of you needs constant (at least daily) reinforcement of the other's love & compassion -- demonstrated by kisses, hugs, words, and gifts.

This is a start. Good luck!

Answer 3

There are a few things that are important to understand, and they have to do with the true nature of humans, and how we relate to other humans.  Why do marriages fail or partners become disillusioned with each other?  

The reason is because we feel our needs are not being met. We want to receive pleasure from something or someone and when we are not getting it we become dissatisfied with our situation. But our main concern has to do with pleasing ourselves versus someone else. This concept actually drives and motivates us in every facet of our lives.  Take a moment and think about that statement and you will see the truth--that we do everything simply to please ourselves.  Our main focus is on ourselves, and what we get out of a relationship.

It is therefore easy to see why relationships fail.  We are not capable of truly giving to each other without wanting anything in return. Therefore when the external pull of attraction and lust wear off, we are left with two people living together who only want to fulfill their own needs.  And since they don't know how to fulfill their own nature, the blame each other in the process. This is not the fault of either party though, its only a sign of our uncorrected nature.

So how can we expect for someone else to please us, when we haven't been able to please ourselves? How can we fault someone else for not satisfying our needs, when we have not been able to satisfy theirs?

I've attached a link to an article that answers all those questions and more, but mainly it shows us a way out of this cycle, and how we can go about correcting it.

Best wishes!!

http://kabbalah.suite101.com/article.cfm...

Answer 4

Well, my husband and I have been married for 5 and together 7 years and I still feel like we are in that beginning stage where I get butterflies in my tummy when we haven't been together in a few hours and then i get to see him. We keep it romantic-love notes-simple favors without having t ask-putting the other before yourself. Don't fight over stupid stuff-and I know that is easier said than done but if you try it won't be too hard. Never give up. Be trustful and trustworthy, respect and give. Don't listen to negative things others say. As long as you keep it real, make love (not just s*x) often and truly love each other it will happen forever. Don't get me wrong-tough things will come along-and one of you might fall out of love at some point-but if neither of you fall out of love at the same time you can keep each other going. Good Luck too You!!

Answer 5

restrict urself 2 each other!!

Answer 6

Make sure you are on the same page about everything before you get married. Kids, finances, etc.

Share everything with each other that you need to and don't keep secrets. Don't argue about little things like how he never puts down the toilet seat or whatever. It's not worth the argument. It's easier to just put the darned thing down yourself sometimes. 8)

Answer 7

Simplest answer:  Remember to hold these three things Tongue, Temper, and Each other.

Answer 8

Respect each other. Let the other person be who they are. Let go of the little things. Laugh and have a sense of humor about things. Enjoy life together!

*only 2 years married, Im no expert.

Answer 9

Open and honest communication - always!

Respect and compromise - alway!

Love and appreciate each other - always!

Patience, patience, patience - always!

A family friend once said:

Marriage is like a beautiful tree and the husband and wife are the two gardeners. You have to work together. Make sure it has strong roots and a great foundation. Groom it, water it, feed it and make sure it's safe from the wind and guarded.

All the best :)

ADD ON: a couple I had met, had made a pact to have a pizza night every Friday. The last time I saw the wife was a few years ago and they had already been married for over 30years by then and still had their pizza night! Adorable and sweet... she looked forward to her date and was so cute.