What would you choose in this situation?

Question

my mind isnt really working at its best today so just want some ideas with what you'd do in this situation! im a bridesmaid for my best friend, the wedding is next weekend and the hens night is this weekend. her sister (another bridesmaid) organised for us all to go to a city 4 hrs away overnight. we are car pooling so leaving 7am saturday morning, getting back sunday night about 6pm. the problem is that my grandfather passed away yesterday and i was very close to him so obviously im grieving terribly. im torn between staying with family or going for my best friend and being there for her.my mum cried when i said i was going and said she'd rather me not but understands if i do its for my friend. i am so upset about losing my pop and family are all coming down this weekend. ive told my friend and she understands altho said it wont be the same without me. unfortunately its just that too far for me to drive myself for at least some of it.

what would you do - stay home wiht family during this sad time and make it up to your best friend somehow? how would you make it up to her? or go knowing you may be upsetting family members and you are feeling very teary but know your best friend will be so happy for you to be going still.

how do you get over the guilt either choice you make?

Answer 1

I must agree with Kristi. Though it may be hard, it still is the best way out. I am not saying that it will be an easy way, and I'm really sorry about that. But you do have to gain strength as Kristi said. Your family members will understand, and there's a really good reason so nobody would believe it's disrespectful. It will be best in the long run -- and i bet your family members will respect your decision in the circumstance made.

I'm really sorry about your grandfather

Answer 2

First, I'm so sorry about your loss. That is horrible and I'll have him and your family in my thoughts.

If you do go to your friends hens night this weekend, will you really have fun knowing what's happening back at home? Your friend will and does understand the position you are in right now, and all you have to say is that your family needs you right now. You will always have time to go out with your friends and celebrate, and you still can go to the wedding next weekend. So you aren't totally missing out, and your family is coming up for this weekend, so I would take this to your advantage. I think you should stay with your family for the weekend, you said yourself you are very sad so it may be best if you let it all out before you even go to this wedding. Your friend will understand, and be grateful you have such a great friend too.

Again, I'm very sorry for your loss and best wishes to you.

Answer 3

defintley family.

Answer 4

First offf, Im very sorry for your loss. It hurts, i know. But, i think you should still go. It shows strength. Strength isnt about what your goin threw, its about how well you deal with the pain. It would be good for you i think. :/ Thats just my opinion, and honestly, i wish it was as easy to do, as it is to say....Good luck. If you need help, feel free to message me <3 :]