What would you consider as acceptable discipline for child whose first year in school by teachers?

Question

my son as asbergers he is moved from class to class at times and left crying eating his lunch at school also teacher takes his toy off him and does not give back to me at end of day when i ask for it

Answer 1

I've read over your previous questions and you are nothing but a narrow minded xenophonic racist. You disgust me and you make me ashamed to be an Irish person with your views.

Immigration into this country was vital for this economy, and it was the likes of the Polish that have kept this country afloat by taking part in the services industry while all the Irish people were in other jobs.

You are an ignorant xenophobe and I am just delighted that the likes of you are not representative of the rest of this country.

Answer 2

Do the teachers know of his problem??? If they do, then they need to be spoken too quite harshly.

If not, get them literature explaining your son's condition and tell them what you want them to do with him if he plays up. Explain that you will not accept him crying due to their negligence or ignorance.

As for not giving you back his toy, I would be hitting the roof with them. How dare they think that they are better than you and can tell you what to do.

If you continue having problems then report them to the principal and if necessary the education board.

If you are still not happy then change his school to a more sympathetic one. One used to dealing with disabilities.

Answer 3

your child needs very special care and attention, they can be so emotionally damaged, keep checking sites online or searching for a group to join so you can fight for the rights of your child.

Answer 4

You need to request a meeting between yourself, the head teacher and the school SENCO. You also need to contact your LEA for help in resolving this. Ask for a copy of your son's IEP; this will tell you what their strategy is supposed to be, and also how much one-to-one help he is funded for. You need to find and re-read all the bumph you were sent when he was statemented too.

Answer 5

you need to see the schools sen co if the school doesnt do this see if you can get intouch with the school nurse and they should point you in he right direction, on who to talk to. Do not let the school talk you out of this ,if your son is statmented the schhol get money to help with yoour son itssoundsl ike that he isnt

Answer 6

I think you need to be having a multi team meeting with the school, including all the professionals involved in his care to discuss the problems areas you a mentioning.

The teacher and the school head mistress need to put across the schools prespective on things, and the Educational Psychologist, Social worker, etc the profession perspective and you need to speak up for your child.

Does he not get any additional support in the classroom from a special needs assistant, if not perhaps this would take some of the stress off the teacher and give him a one to one tuition . . .

I have a daughter with additional needs and had to fight my local authority for additional support for her.

I had a lot of sympathy for my daughters teacher who was trying to teach a class full of children but was aware my daughter needs were much greater and felt she was trying to divide herself too many ways . . . at least she was honest !!!

All children deserve a mainstream education . . . but when other childrens education is suffering questions have to be asked and solutions found.

You say he has a classroom assistant, I believe you should recommend she does some additional training on how to deal with children with Autistic Spectrum disorders, as most of the problems are behavioural and she should learn how to deal with them apart from him being excluded !!!

Answer 7

This teacher could be in big ****, and shes asking for it hun. Whip out the big guns... Tell everyone. Girls are the best weapon

Or see the head ofice of education!!

Have fun

x

Answer 8

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Ask to see the schools inclusion policy, it should state that he must be included in lessons. He should also be on school action plus and have TA hours  ( teaching assistant) so he gets decent support. He should have an IEP ( individual Education Plan) to help him and his parents set targets for him to strive for.

Also ( if this is UK ) see if your county has a parent partnership group they can advise and help

Talk to the teacher about the toy - some schools dont like them taking toys in

If you want to talk further pls email me!

I have a son in reception and once they realise you know your stuff they start making sure it happens!

Talk to his teacher - ask questions and don't be afraid to say you dont like what theyre doing. You are your childs main educator ( kids spend 80% of their time with parents)

there is a white paper called every parent matters to enable parents to know their role in education - dont be afraid to question the teachers

They are not allow to exclude him from lessons - they are there to support him they are so in the wrong!

Answer 9

I would take this problem to the education board.  Too many parents wont do or say anything.  Your sons comfort is being taken away from him, poor soul.  Demand an explanation and if you not happy perhaps consider relocating your son to a school that he will be cared for properly.

Answer 10

Honey, I've been a teaching assistant for 23 years and I will try to explain life from a school's point of view. First I will say I don't know one thing about Asbergers, but I do know about teachers. I have never met a teacher yet who would deliberately try to make your child unhappy. What some parents don't understand is that if one child is acting out there are nineteen or so other little ones that aren't learning. As far as bringing toys to school can you just picture how distracting  that is to the other children. They are wondering why they can't play with a toy. Why not keep the toys at home and that would solve that problem? Teachers move children into other classes sometimes because if the child is in a different environment he will settle down. We all respond to different people in different ways. Honey why don't you go volunteer at the school and then you can get a better insight into what is really going on. When my daughter was in elementary school I was there as much as she was and made lifelong friends with the teachers. That lead into my career as a teaching assistant. If you have to work just pop in when you can. Good luck Honey. This is just some advice from an old gal that knows a lot about children.

Answer 11

this is not good practise speak to the head teacher and ask to look at the schools behaviour policy to read on behaviour and other relevant issues they can not object as its your right as the parent. good luck x

Answer 12

Complaint on the teacher, your child may be swiched to a different teacher

Answer 13

I wanted to answer your Question, since you answered mine so very well.  Perhaps she is trying to set some sort of boundaries to help him adjust emotionally.  To learn to compromise and follow rules effectively.  A child in my son's class is affected similarly to yours.  Such a bright wonderful child, but he tends to "over-react"  before speaking with teachers, I would recommend speaking to a child psychologist.  Ask him/her what he/she thinks is appropriate for your childs situation.  Armed with this information, you will have some "muscle" when you have a conference with the school staff regarding what's going on with him.  Sometimes making teachers aware is not enough.  There are situations where you need to back it up with a "professional" opinion.

Good luck to you, and thanks again so much for your help earlier!

Blessed Be

Dawna