What would you do, if you were me? ?

Question

Hi there, I'm Tim

This isn't a blog/vlog I just want to see what you guys would do in my situation, please don't blow me off this isn't one of those "I'm so depressed, no one understands me" questions,

I go to high school, I hate it, I have friends but they aren't "friends" they tease, exclude, manipulate and intimidate me, I live at home, I hate it, I can't stand it, it's full of physical/mental violence, yelling, screaming, hating, hatred, hostility and negativity - so basically school and home make up my life if you get me and I can't stand the to at all - the way I'm, writing may seem like I am coping etc but I'm not, I've never ever understood how people can become depressed because I have always been able to put things in perspective? But after having I think a year of this hitting it's peak I am depressed, I feel suicidal and it freaks me out because years ago I had such strong views on people in my condition atm, it's just like I have been completely destroyed, I am in 6th form/ Year 12, it's currently August so I have to December to finish this year of school if I finish it due to being so stressed/depressed and energy depleted and then another YEAR of school/home in 7th form/ Year 13, so atm I am in a position of distress, I am depressed/suicidal/stressed/completely different/ have no confidence and put ALL my effort into passing school to ensure I don't have to repeat school again etc so I can go to Australia or Europe somewhere where I want to go, my house is completely messy and to build the picture home is really violent - and I am not in the wrong and I am so honest when I say that - I get in physical fights with my Dad, arguing every day over stupid things, it's really negative and really really upsetting (thats the word) sorry if I rambled or spelled things wrong I'm really upset, what would you do in my position, like do I just stay at home and let it get worse and try finish school? or what? -

Answer 1

first of all i would find new friends. having people you trust to turn to can be very helpful. school, everybody hates school, its just one of those things you have to deal with. home, you say yelling and fighting start over stupid things. so you just dont fight back. if someone yells at you just reply with one calm word like "okay" or "yeah" they make the arguments go by way faster. and over all dont let things get to you. try to have as much patients as possible. and being depressed isnt going to take you anywhere! neither will committing suicide.  

Answer 2

Stand up for yourself when your so called "friends" do that to you. That will probably make them nonplussed. And get new ones. You don't have  to stop being "friends" with the other ones, but once you get new friends you will see that it gets easier to dump the old ones. I understand that it's not easy to get new friends just like that, but try to find people online that live close to you. And about your home situation, go outside. Go to the forest or a park or sit on a bench in a mall or whatever you like. I take walks and fantasize to esape from reality. It really helps to get out of the house even if it's just for an hour. If there's a youth club near you, you can go there to study and/or meet new people.And you can listen to songs that reflect these kind of feelings you have. You're not alone, you know. I know that it's hard, but don't give up. If the rest of us have to cope with life, you don't get to quit. Hold on. It's worth the while.

P.S. Here are a few song tips from my side:

Good Charlotte - Hold On

Avril Lavigne - Keep Holding On

Avril Lavigne - Nobody's Home

Simple Plan - Perfect

Green Day - Wake Me Up When September Ends

Linkin Park - Somewhere I Belong

Linkin Park - Leave Out All The Rest

Maybe yo don't like these genres of music, but I hope you do. D.S.

Answer 3

ok so it sounds to me like you need to #1 talk to a counselor at school tell them what is going on at home so they can help you with that situation  #2 find an outlet, get involved in some club, committee something that interest you at school or do volunteer work or go to the gym outside of school anything to get your mind off your unstable home life, if you just need to get thru the next  6 months or so it will go by so much faster if your active and doing something you enjoy even if its only for 30 min or so every day, gives you something to look forward to so that the suicidal thoughts won't come around

hang in there

Answer 4

Finish school. Education helps you achieve independence. Life gets a lot better really fast once you do. For now (and I know you've probably heard it before), find something you like and bury yourself in it. Spend your time in positive places, if you can, like the library, and protect yourself the best you are able.

Good Luck! We're pulling for you.

Answer 5

If I were you...well I was you.   This was me when I was 16

I had serious problems like you and I didn't have anyone to turn to.

I had no good friends or realitves to get advice from....so I called the suiscide hotline...talked to a young man  w/ christian background.

Long story short he sugest that I join the army...I did, and I became mentally ill there...but you have  yahoo answer...I had one person as a mentor you have all of us rooting for you in here...you have chioces to look at.

My advice is to think positive...get out a bad situation...be strong... do the right things. take control of your life.

remenber we all care about you in here or we woundn't be here.

Answer 6

keep doing what you're doing.  Keeping reaching out for advice and use what u think will work 4 U.  U will get all kinds of different advice from people and a lot of people will think their advice is the best advice.  Only U can decide that, trust UR instincts, BUT listen  as well sometimes we can B our own worst enemies.  But keep reaching out and if U can avoid those people in your life who are not part of the solution, but part of the problem.

Answer 7

live on ur own house , close to the house u lived before . if u wanne finnish school its ur choise , but if i was u , i would live in an other house or a small house ...

Answer 8

Hang in there. Trust God and believe everything will get better. Remember you're not gonna live that way forever. Focus on your studies and s***w your friends. Stand up  for yourself! God bless