What would you do? How would you feel?

Question

My boyfriend and I have a 5 month old daughter together and recently decided to split due to our fighting and other problems. We moved out the day before yesterday and we were all very amicable about it, and we discussed everything beforehand.

So, my daughter and I moved 8 hours away and he still hasn't called to check on her, which I'm kinda shocked since he adores her and I can't seem to figure out why he hasn't called to see how she's doing. We weren't mad at each other when we left, we knew it was best for all of us. I will call him if he doesn't call, but I don't want to seem "pushy" I guess. Would you be upset if it were you? What should I do? I know I should probably just let it go, but I couldn't imagine not seeing how my baby was even for a couple of hours.

Answer 1

He may not know what to say.  If she's only 5 months, he knows that he wouldn't really be able to talk to her and ask how she's doing.  Perhaps he is just trying to give you some space and time to get settled in with your move and everything.  Although, I have two kids myself and I couldn't image going a day without seeing or talking to them.  Perhaps deep down he is upset about losing her and just needs a little bit of time.  He may know that the split was for the best, but actually having her (and you) gone, might be playing on him harder than he thought it would.  I know that's a few different things, but just trying to say all the different possibilities that come to mind.

Answer 2

maybe he is trying to give you time to settle in?  

Answer 3

sorry to hear that but its definatly his loss. just dont let it bother you because you have a big task raising her alone and he will call im sure. if you keep calling him he may think you cant handle it or that you want him back.when he does call though express that you would really like it if he still was an active parent in her life because what happened between the two of you had nothing to do with her and you would still like for her to know her daddy,

Answer 4

Maybe its just easier not to call.  That doesn't mean he doesn't care.  Im sure its killing him on the inside.

Answer 5

I would be very upset but I wouldn't call him if he doesn't call you I would just wait, and if he cares at all you will be getting a call believe me I have been in this situation a lot and he always called even if it took a while he called so just wait it out and see!!  Good luck to you and I hope it all works out for the best!

Answer 6

are you sure you want to split up your family?  if no body's cheatin or beatin then get back together, the pobs today with him will be different probs tomorrow w/ someone else.